We live in an era in which romance is so highly revered. Now, there's nothing wrong with that. I myself am a huge romantic and love the cheesiest of old movies. Doris Day is one of my idols alongside Audrey Hepburn. So, this article is not to advertise that dating is bad or should be avoided on purpose. Instead, I want to speak to the people who just haven't found the right one yet, and aren't actively looking for them either.
Life isn't always about finding someone to romantically love.
First, you have plenty of people around you who want to fill you up with different kinds of love. In fact, we were made from love. You have so much of it inside you already. Not to mention the love your family and friends have for you!
Second, if you're like me, you're relishing in these moments where life is all about you. I'm one of those people, like so many of you, that does everything for everyone else and rarely makes time for themselves. We'll spend an obscene amount of money on birthday gifts for loved ones, but put back the $2 candle for ourselves at TJ Maxx. We've got to do better, guys. And there is nothing wrong with starting now!
It can be an intensely beautiful thing to care for someone in a romantic way, but it's also OK if you are focused on treating yourself right now! There is nothing wrong with spending your tip money on new shoes, eyelash extensions, or new soccer cleats. You know exactly what you like, and if not, now is the time to explore the inner workings of your own mind.
I know they mean well, but it's not always helpful to hear "you'll find someone" or "your prince charming is right around the corner." Maybe they are. Maybe they're not.
Regardless, it's OK if you aren't thinking about that. It's OK if you don't ever think about that, actually. We need to work collectively on normalizing the fact that it's OK to save your extra energy for you.
It'll help you create the best version of yourself you can possibly be.
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