For almost four years I was in a relationship where if I didn't choose him over my friends, school, or pretty much anything it would be World War III. At the time I didn't think anything of it, I loved him so why wouldn't I want to choose him.

I had him in mind in every single decision I made, and it ended up costing me a lot.

I nearly lost friends, went to a college I didn't really want to attend and ended up doing things that simply made me unhappy. Eventually, we ended up breaking up and there I was, stuck at a college where I had very few friends.

In the back of my head, I knew this whole time that I should have done what made me happy, but I never did.

After going through this, every time I either watched a movie or TV show where a girl was choosing between following her dreams or staying with the "guy of her dreams," I always rooted for her to take the job, or move to the city she dreamed of.

Yeah, the guy she was choosing was good looking and sweet, but he isn't going to pay her bills! Unless you find a Christin Grey who will pay for everything, but that's beside the point.

When it comes down to it, you are basically choosing a guy over yourself.

You think the love you have with him will last forever and that at that moment it's the right thing to do. But right now in our 20s is the time to be selfish, and choose all the things that are going to be best for us in the long run. At the end of the day, you will always have to live with the decisions you've made, and what better way to ensure a happy life than to make the choices that you can look back on and never regret.

Don't be the girl who didn't go to Paris and stayed in LA for the summer with a boy who ended up breaking your heart. We're looking at you, Lauren Conrad.