Acting authoritative in some forms can actually be acceptable. Being talked down to is usually not always needed in everyday situations. Discipline is needed between some people such as in a parent to child. Other situations where authority is needed works for situations such as a boss to an employee. Language and tone matter when talking to someone who you could be hurting. There is a fine line between what to tolerate when people are speaking to you and how you choose to speak to others.

1. No, it is not classy. Yes, it is rude (wow, who knew?).
2. Constructive Criticism is one thing, harsh, critical words are another.There are too many circumstances that one comes across in a lifetime that makes them feel like they are not appreciated (duh, that’s life). Two favors for everyone can be done here. It’s say what needs to be said in the best manner possible.

3. It does NOT make you a better person. Actually, if you speak down to others, do NOT expect any person to speak highly of you.

4. If does nothing but create tension. No, seriously, there’s more in there than you can think.

5. Let people be who they want to be (and NO you cannot be rude about it NEWSFLASH: it’s not your life, haters).

6. Little comments that you might think do not matter, don’t worry, they matter. The more little sidebars (unnecessary comments) that are said over time actually build a wall between people (who likes these walls anyway?), and it’s still not cute.

7. Forgiveness goes a long way but don’t walk over people who are forgiving because well, that’s not how life should work. If someone is willing to forgive you for what you say (Keep in mind we all say bad things) then what makes it a hobby when they can walk out on you without you even knowing. Grudges do not do as much damage to the people you hold them against. (remember that).

8. Do not constantly make yourself the victim. If you do not agree with how certain things may be going STICK UP FOR YOURSELF and go with your gut. If you don’t think things are right address it sooner rather than later.

9. We all have done it. We all do it. Speak for yourself, but do not let others do it for you. Apologize.

To those who speak the harsh words: Get off of your high horse.

To those who hear these words: keep your head and shoulders up, this way no one can talk down to you.