In case nobody has told you lately: you need to let it go.

What exactly? Anything that drains your energy, anything that makes you shrink. You need to let go of anything that is no longer actively serving a purpose in your life, anything that is an unnecessary energy pit. You owe that much and more to yourself.

I think that often times it seems so difficult to let things go because of the fact that people feel that once you do, all your memories of the event or person or place simply dissolve like they never existed in the first place. We hold on and hold on to something that does not have a place in our lives anymore because we are simply too afraid to think of our lives without it.

But the reality is that by keeping something in your life (and by thinking about something, you are making the decision to preserve it), you are essentially sending a message out to the universe that you are not wanting of what it wants to give you in place of what you've lost.

Letting go is not an easy idea. It's no simple task to declare something is in the past and move on with your life, but it will be for your highest benefit. Why do you insist on pondering what once was over and over again? Why do you believe that you're going to find something different each time you play the same scenario over and over in your mind?

You already know the ending and it isn't pretty. Decide to demand more from yourself and from your life and let it go. It is difficult. But in order to grow as a person, you must designate the things that do nothing besides hold you back as part of the past and let them go.

Once you've moved on, you won't ever want to look back. There is so much more to life than reminiscing on old memories that don't actively better you. Once you've let go, you'll realize that by holding on, you were missing out on so many amazing things. Finally, those wonderful things have a chance to find you. And trust me, they will.