As I was thinking on what to write this week, this subject just kept coming to mind. This semester I am taking a marriage and family class. This is the first class that I have taken based around mostly marriage. At my church, we had a girls' purity class, but that wasn't talking about healthy and unhealthy relationships as my college class is.
I am going to start out with my story. This is not my life story but the story of my relationships. I was in more relationships than this but these are the ones I tend to count because they were more serious and I was old enough to understand a relationship and what I really want in a guy.
So, I guess it all started my freshman year of high school. I of course was head over heels for this guy. He was everything I thought I ever wanted, but boy, was I wrong. After dating a little over a year, we broke up. I was crushed and I began my stage of anger. To make him mad I would talk to other guys often more than one at a time. I would post pictures with them on Instagram or even of their trucks. I was so blindsided I never even began the healing process until the summer of 2014. This is when I began to open my eyes and heart to how our relationship really was. I wasn't really happy; he controlled my happiness by his happiness. I only did things to make him happy. I was willing to give up all my hopes and dreams for what he wanted me to do. During this time of healing, I dated all the wrong guys. I dated the partiers, the bad boys, the ones that looked good on the outside but weren't on the inside. I found that many girls went through this stage after a bad break-up. I began to pray to God that His will would be done and I would find myself and someone who was Christ-like, my best friend and who accepted me for who I am. Over the past year, I had also lost all of my best friends. I grew so much closer to God and my family during this time. I began to discover who I was and what God had planned for me.
One night, I got a message from a guy I was friends with on Facebook. He just said, "Hey I am Dalton's brother. Do you remember me?" Now, here is little background. Dalton is my ex-boyfriend's best friend. Also, the night he messaged me, I had hurt my hip in a softball game. So, at first I was really hesitant to message back, but I did.
He explained why he had massaged me and who he was. Then I was really rude to him and said, "I am in a lot of pain I will message you tomorrow." I remember my mom being so mad at me for doing this because she said he would never talk to me again. But we never knew I would talk to him every day for the rest of my life. I never imagined I would fall in love so young, and neither did my amazing boyfriend, Daniel.
He was the type that told his parents he would never go to prom, never have a girlfriend, never have anything to do with girls. But here we are two proms later and over two years into our relationship. I would never trade may life with him for anything.
I tell you all this not to make you jealous of our wonderful relationship, but to tell you that we all go through crap and you never know when you will see the one. Every love story is different. I thought I was going to marry my ex, but sometimes God has something better in store, and He did. Daniel Anderson and I plan to get married as soon as I graduate from college. College has really been hard on our relationship, but now that we are use to it seems to have brought the flame of our fire even higher as though we have only been dating a few months. Everyday I thank the good Lord above for my one and only. I want to give you a few tips to making it through the single life or even just knowing if he is the one!
1. Pray! Ask God for His will to be done and that you will find your one and only!
2. Ask your friends and family what they truly think about your boyfriend. I say this because often we are blinded by love and do not see the truth, and someone else might!
3. Don't settle for anything less than your prince charming! You deserve the best for you! He may not be the best for another girl but he is for you!
4. Don't base your love off of someone else's. Not everyone is the same, and just because he has the looks or the brains or all your friends think you are perfect together doesn't mean he makes you happy.
5. Be happy and find yourself first! Always know who you are not matter who you are with or who you are not with!
