Everyone needs their “person”, someone with whom you can reveal your deepest secrets and desires without fear or judgement. They are there for you through thick and thin, through the bad days and the good. Most girls my age cite their best friend as their person, but my person is my mom, Mama J.

It is her birthday this week and as part of her present, I wanted to dedicate this article to my hero. Although there are no words that can be strung together to form an accurate appreciation for all that you have done for me, I’ll try to do my best.

To Mama J:

It takes a special kind of person to do the things that you do. Throughout the years, your resilience, strength, and kindness were always at the forefront of everything you did. I don’t know any other mom who can rock a side part/ faux hawk like you can (even though you like your pixie cut better). You are the kind of mom other moms wish they could be.

Growing up, I was so lucky to have such a positive role model in my life. You make me laugh and you build me back up when I fall. The time we spend together is irreplaceable and priceless; from long car rides to honors ceremonies, I wouldn’t trade a moment for the world. You’ve never missed one game, school play, or ceremony. When I see your face in the front row in the audience or hear your loud whistle from the stands, I know that I can conquer anything because you are there cheering me on.

Anyone who knows you, knows that you are a force to be reckoned with. Not only can you wake up at 4 am to go lift an insane amount of weight you also make it back in time to take me to school on time. On the off chance anyone dares to cross you, you also have the ability to leave them shaking in their shoes.

Thank you for everything you’ve done for me. You never hesitate when I tell you I absolutely need to go to the craft store at 11 pm, bake seven dozen cookies, or that I need a ride home from a speech tournament at 1 am. It’s what makes you Mama J. Thank you for the free coffee Mondays, trips to Robinson Mall, the car ride karaoke, and being my #1 fan. I am so proud to be your daughter.

I often joke that you are not only my mom but you are also my personal shopper, my manager, my agent, personal photographer, pageant coach, chauffeur, hair stylist, shoulder to lean on along with countless other roles you have played for me. Thank you for telling me that I am invincible and to reach for the stars. You deserve your own crown. I love you.

““You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” -Aibileen Clark