So to get things started, my boyfriend and I met in General Chemistry 2. Shout out to HELD 101. At first, we were just friends. He would occasionally flirt with me and say the sweetest things, but I completely shrugged it off. My thought process was, "Oh I'll only spend time with him in this class for this semester, and by the time the semester ends, we'll only have each other on Snapchat and every so often slide up and comment on each other's snaps. But boy, was I in for a treat. Every other day (MWF), he'd compliment me and make comments during lecture just so we'd talk.
What girl doesn't like attention right? But this was different. I'd be studying in Evans until midnight and he'd come and visit me just to see me on those days when we didn't have Chem 2. He'd notice I'd have a bad day and he'd buy me coffee or take me to go get a milkshake. A day did not go by where he didn't compliment me or ask me how my day was going. Naturally, as any oblivious gal does, I friend-zoned him. He knew it too. But that did not stop him.
I didn't date him because we were so opposite. I like to go shopping and like to stay warm indoors. He does not like to go shopping and he's very outdoorsy. He's a Chaco and Birk fanatic. I am not. He loves red meat, I mean loves it. I do not. I love sweets. He does not. I always thought that in order to date someone and for things to go well, you had to be like your partner. You had to like the same things, you had to find joy in doing the same activities. Wrong I was again!
Moral of this story, yeah we bump heads every so often, but we go out of our way just to make the other happy. We compromise. We'll go to Sonic so I can get a milkshake and he can get ocean water. We'll go shopping...at HEB. He still wears Chacos, and I don't. But I told him that if he gets me a pair I'd wear them. It' funny how different we are but how well we work together. I don't think I'd be as open to trying new things if it weren't for him exposing me to them.
My advice to anyone putting a dude in the friend-zone, don't overlook that person. They could be the biggest blessing you're praying for.