Everyone knows those girls who get up and do their hair and makeup for class every day. I happen to be one of those girls. Contrary to popular belief I do not do it for anyone except for myself. I do it to make myself feel good, not for you to approve of.

While doing this I do get compliments on my makeup and my outfits, but many times the compliment ends in “but you don’t need all of that makeup.” I know I don’t need all of this makeup, but I want all of this makeup. Or some people will just straight up say that I would look so much better without any makeup and that “the natural look is better.” This is not only offensive, but also gives off the impression that you don’t approve of how I look, which as I mentioned before I do it to make myself feel good, not you.

Now let’s say that I am having a lazy day or just didn’t feel like doing my hair and makeup and just felt like wearing comfy clothes. Almost every person I would interact with that day would most likely ask what was wrong with me. They would say, “You’re looking a little rough today, are you okay?” Yes, I’m fine, I’m just trying to do what you say and simply go with the natural look without all of that make up. People assume that you must just be really tired, but really you are well rested considering all of the extra sleep you got because you didn’t have to get up earlier and get all ready. You can never win.

What people don't recognize is how therapeutic getting yourself ready can be. If I'm having a rough day, doing my makeup and putting on a nice outfit always makes me feel so much better. If I'm stressed out, doing my makeup and listening to music is so relaxing. But, society always finds it's ways to put you down to doing something that makes you feel good about yourself. To me, this is one of the most vicious cycles for someone’s mind. You do something to make yourself feel good and everyone tells you to do the opposite. Then, you do what they want and do the opposite and you are kicked down for it. You can never win. That’s why I choose to have the appearance I do, for my own approval only.