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Advice To The Teenager In 2019

"Social Media is great- just don't let it become everything."

Taylor Marie Contarino

Aug 20, 2019

Millennials of New Jersey

Credit: Instagram @planoly

Here is my genuine, raw advice to the teenager in 2019.

Delete your finsta. You shouldn't have to post a black screen and a sad caption to get people to reach out to you. Real friends will reach out on their own. Stop worrying about being left on open or left on read. If someone really cares, they will reply. "Left on open for one minute" won't matter because you'll either know they're busy or they'll tell you they are but will get back to you later. Stop stressing over how many likes you get on a selfie on Instagram. You shouldn't have to delete something because it didn't get enough comments or likes. You should already know how beautiful you are- a person double tapping their screen shouldn't have to be your daily reminder and reassurance that you're a pretty girl... because you are a beautiful girl, and you should know that already without the necessity for constant reassurance of your physical attractiveness.

Who cares who watches your snap story? Who cares how many people swipe up on your selfie? The people that truly care about you will show it. They'll show up. In person. Not just via the internet. Social media can be fun; you get to connect so easily with people you don't see every single day. It's easy to become close friends with new people when you have a constant source of communication. But, don't let social media define you. "Likes" are just double taps of fingers across the world. "Comments" are things you should already know about yourself. It would be a lot nicer for us to start "commenting" on each other in person. Hey, you look gorgeous today. You're a beautiful person. Your outfit is stunning. Your eyes look so good today. These are everyday things we could be telling each other. Let's like each other in person.

Let's DM in person. Let's quit FaceTiming and meet up at a cute little coffee shop to vibe in person. Let's actually go somewhere and create memories that we can't over the phone. You're never really going to remember a deep conversation over text. Your memories won't be of face time calls and snap chats back and forth. The real memories are the ones we make at 3 am when our blood is pumping and we can hear each other's breathing and see each other's smile on our faces. The real Snapchat memories are the ones we are living in right now. We don't need Facebook to reminisce when we can make new memories with the time we use on the app. Social media is great- just don't let it become everything.

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No, I can't help you.

1. When a customer wants to return a product, hands you the receipt, where is printed "ALL SALES ARE FINAL" in all caps.

2. Just because you might be having a bad day, and you're in a crappy mood, doesn't make it okay for you to yell at me or be rude to me. I'm a person with feelings, just like you.

3. People refusing to be put on hold when a customer is standing right in front of you. Oh, how I wish I could just hang up on you!

4. Having the same conversations over and over again! To be honest I really don't even want to talk to you right now, or have this fake ass smile on my face!

5. Always having to have a smile on your face. I promise I'm not as happy as I may look!

6. Customers not understanding that sometimes, mistakes happen. I am a human being, we all mess up sometimes!

7. Having the boss from hell, it's their way or the highway! Even though I did my job correctly and efficiently, if I don't do it the exact way you do, I'm a piece of shit.

8. Having coworker who don't help out, who bend the rules just enough to screw you over.

9. Having to be at work after closing because a customer is taking forever and half! Not like I'd like to go home or anything!

10. Having shitty hours and more shifts than you asked for. Just because we don't have enough workers, doesn't mean I want to pick up every shift that you cant cover, oh great boss of mine!

11. Not having time for a social life. It gets old saying, "I can't I have work..." Every day of the week!

12. Having that lazy costumer who can't do anything for themselves... no please I'll get that, it's no problem at all!

It's just my face, I swear.

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3. After being friends with someone for a while, they confess to you, "I thought you were so mean when I first met you," or, "I thought you hated me."

4. You get told to smile more, but they don't understand how scary that would be.

5. You're always labeled as seeming "judgy."

6. Passing a friend with your RBF in full force and not realizing you just shot them a death glare.

7. Being sarcastic, but everyone thinks you're outright rude.

8. Not knowing how mean you really look until you see a picture of yourself in resting face.

9. Your apologies never sound sincere because of your emotionless face.

10. Your "mad face" scares you.

11. And, lastly, people are constantly asking you if you are happy or having a good time because you look bored to death.

Please hold your blonde joke.

1. "Is Elle Woods your spirit animal?"

2. "Is that your natural hair color?"

3. "Oh wow, you get good grades at school?"

4. "You must really like the color pink!"

5. "You’re probably not into sports, right?"

6. "You must have such a bubbly personality."

7. "Your wardrobe must consist of all things preppy."

8. "What sorority are you in?"

9. "You were probably a cheerleader in high school."

10. "You look like you’re from L.A. because your hair is so light."

11. "You definitely like Pumpkin Spiced Lattes from Starbucks!"

12. "Do you actually think blondes have more fun?"

13. "You must encompass the typical “white girl” stereotype."

14. "Is that daddy’s credit card you’re using?"

15. "So all of your friends are blonde too?"

16. "I’m surprised about you; I thought you would be a lot ditsier."

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1. When you get your acceptance letter

2. When you try to figure out how class enrollment works

3. When it’s move in day

4. When you arrive on campus and see all of the attractive people

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6. When you find your squad

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Do you have a small get-together or throw a big bash?

1. Your family and friends ask what you want for your birthday, so you give them a list of options.

2. You're super excited about your birthday the week before.

3. Your family flies in town to celebrate with you.

4. Your siblings wake you up.

5. Your friends are so excited to be with you on your big day.

6. If you work, your office might throw a party for you.

7. For your actual party, you plan a small get-together with close family and friends ...

8. ... or large celebration with everyone you know.

9. You eat the best meal you've had in weeks.

10. You devour the first piece of cake proudly.

11. You embarrass yourself somehow.

12. You get the present you really wanted but thought no one would get you.

13. You are a little sad about getting older.

14. That feeling wears off and you realize how happy you are to have family and friends to celebrate this day with you.

15. The morning after your birthday looks something like this.

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