As a recent high school graduate, I cried on my last day, unsure of what I was suppose to do after high school was over. After all the excitement of graduation settled and I was left with the truth, it was time to move on. It took a little while for me, but as I look back on it now I absolutely love college. I realize if I wouldn't have allowed myself to move on from high school then I would still be stuck in the past, with the person that I used to be.
As someone who has experienced a lot of change in her life, I understand the concept that you can't spend your present worrying about what has happened to you. Instead you should concentrate more on who you are right now and what is happening around you. Take it from someone who has spent years obsessing over the past: as you are sitting in your room thinking about what could have been you are missing out on what is happening.
People will make you feel bad for moving on too fast and for moving on too slow. Everyone takes their own time to heal and to move on from whatever may be holding you back. Trust me, though, it is ok to move on with your life. Don't let the fact that others don't understand how to move on stop you from growing and accepting that the past is the past.
Its okay to wake up one morning and no longer miss that person that won't get off your mind. One morning you will wake up and realize Heaven isn't so far away. One morning you will wake up like I did and realize high school is over and that's completely fine. One morning you will wake up and realize that while you were so busy living in the past you completely missed all the amazing things happening around you.
Life is ultimately what you make of it. Some days its throws curve balls at you and no matter how hard you try you cant escape it. Its not so much about how terrible life may be to you, but how you learn from the past and embrace the future.
Life is a beautifully painful thing at times. Its up to you whether or not your going to continue to live in your past. While you are standing their looking behind you surrounded by the pain of the past, you are completely missing on the beautiful things happening right in front of you.