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Moving On from The 'Almost' Relationship

"If he liked it then he should've put a ring on it." -- Queen Bey

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The “almost” relationship: a weird emotional limbo that most girls go through at some time or another. Your grandmother will just call him your boyfriend, but really you have just been consistently hooking up and eating greasy food with the same low-key alcoholic-but-charming a**hole for a few months. He is the bed you go back to on the weekends, but there is very little chance of a ring by spring. If you've been in this situation, you know the personal hell it is to be there when every girl grows up fantasizing about her wedding and is told she will meet her husband in college.

You are probably tired of being asked, “Are you and Tommy/John/Mike dating?” or, “So what’s up between you and that kid?” Or, my personal favorite, “Are you two smashing?” And you are obligated to say “no” to pretty much everything because, no, you are not official, and, no, you are not his girlfriend. The worst part, though, is that whatever it was is over, and you don't know how to tell people that. There is no closure and probably no real clear end. What do you do now?

Many relationships don't have real closure, and that is even more true for the “almost” relationships. If the guy ended it then he probably doesn't even feel like he owes you a real reason, or ending, because y’all were definitely not FB-official or anything. So you are left there, wondering what is really happening and why.

So make your own closure. Send that one last text (not 50), have a bottle of wine with your best friend, maybe even burn that shack shirt you have. Do what you gotta do to have a real ending because you are not getting it from him. Be forewarned, though: Do not go into crazy ex-girlfriend mode, because no one will take your side on this one -- just don't.

Your friends, especially the ones in actual relationships, are not going to really understand why you're such a downer all of a sudden. It isn't like you “broke up” anyway. They will tell you to just “get over it” and you should tell them to shove it. Just because you didn't have a nice, neat label doesn't meant you didn't try, and that your feelings aren't hurt.

You have probably made a million and a half excuses of why you don't have a label and why you aren't more than “almost.” It is time to stop those excuses though. In the end, you deserve more than “almost” and “talking.” If someone isn't going to commit to you, then you need to move on anyway. Hooking up and being casual is one thing, but if it has been a few months and they can't stand by your side and say they are proud to be with you, then that is not the kind of person you need in your life. And like Queen Bey has told us time and time again, “if he liked it then he should've put a ring on it.”

You can still be friends with that person, but do what is right for you and move on. Do not get revenge by sleeping with his best friend, but do get revenge by being happy. A fake laugh isn’t going to show him how great of a time you are having without him, but actually being better will.

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