How many times have you found yourself arguing with someone, more specifically a significant other, and halfway through you realize you’re engaging in a completely pointless argument? Not only does the fight not matter, it’s genuinely stupid; meaning it’s not serving any purpose. Below you will find a few prime examples of questions that almost always lead to pointless arguments in relationships.
1. “What do you want to do (today/tonight/right now/etc.)?”
Regardless if you and your significant other are the most laid back, chill, go-with-the-flow couple in the world, this conversation is enough to tear down even the strongest of loves. This question usually ends with, "I really don't care what we do! Just pick something!"
2. "What do you want to eat?”
On the same token, this question is enough to destroy one’s will to live. Something about indecisiveness in combination with hangry-ness, makes even the best couples, the worst.
3. “What do you want to watch?”
Netflix, Hulu, Apple TV, OnDemand, Basic Cable; so many options. If you can't decide just put on a sports game or a Rom-Com. It really shouldn’t matter all that much anyway. �It’s not like you’re going to be watching much (any) of it.
4. “What should I wear/What are you wearing?”
Not only does this cause conflict and annoyance in romantic relationships, but in platonic ones as well. Many a group chat have been divided over this very “dilemma”. "I don't care what you wear!" "If we get there and I am over/under dressed, I'm going to kill you." Ah, romance.
5. “What would you like for (Christmas/Birthday/Valentine’s Day/ Anniversary/etc.)?”
Gift giving is difficult to begin with, but add in the pressure of a relationship and you’re done for. The gift can’t be too expensive or hard to come by, but must maintain a reasonable level of thoughtfulness and “flash”. Therefore, you are left searching for a gift that is not only in your price range, but also within a week long shipping period. Oh, and if someone ever says, “ I don’t want anything”, “Don’t get me anything”, or “There’s nothing I need” (especially if they add “I have you, what more could I want?”), just get them a gift card, some food, and call it a day.
6. “What would you do/Would you still love me if (Insert ridiculous, improbable/impossible, jacked-up circumstance)?”
(i.e. abducted by aliens, and returned with half human, half unicorn robot body with no left ear or toes)
Just… you know what, no. No one would talk to you, and why is this a conversation? You know what anyone would do; freak out, send you to the lab for testing, and wait for Disney to make a movie about it. Stop it.
7. Any questions about future life plans, including, but not limited to:
“Where do you want to live?” (Assuming you don’t want to stay in your current zip code.)
“Do you think you’d want to get married someday?”
“Would you ever/Have you ever thought about marrying me?”
“Do you want to have kids?”
(Assuming you do want kids) “How many kids do you want to have?”
“Do you think I’d be a good mom/dad?”
“If I died, would you be sad?”
If anyone you’re dating has to ask if you would be sad if they DIED, you probably don’t like them that much anyway. Or at least you shouldn't, because they seem super needy.
If you find yourself arguing more than loving, you're probably not in a great relationship. Know when to let the little things go, and keep in mind that relationships are supposed to make life better, not worse.
“If it's not worth breaking up over, then it's not worth arguing over. If you’re arguing every other day, you’re not in a relationship, you’re on a debate team. Not every concern needs to be an issue. Let the insignificant things stay that way.” -Tony Gaskins Jr.
