You don't have to be the best mom. You don't have to have dinner on the table every night. You don't have to have the house perfectly clean and all the beds made everyday. Let the kids play and make a mess. Take them out to eat when you don't want to cook. Lay around in your pajamas all day and have a glass of wine.

Its okay to not be okay.

Its okay to take a break and walk away. Its okay to put the baby in their crib when they wont stop crying and shut the door so you can breathe. Feed them, change them, and know that they are fine and take a second to focus on yourself. I'm a walking billboard for being out of control.

Motherhood is hard but realize that that is okay.

Anxiety, postpartum depression, and a screaming one year old.T r u s t me, I have so many moments when I want to hide under the covers and run away from the world. But its okay.

Its okay to not be okay.

Don't keep secrets from the world. You don't have to post to Facebook and Instagram about how perfect your kids are, marriage is, and how much you love your job. Because everyone knows that nothing is perfect 100% of the time. I know so many people who post those things and then run to me and complain about everything going on because its all crashing down around them.

When you haven't showered in 3 days, haven't brushed your hair and you're not wearing a bra-just know that its okay. When you fed your kids Mcdonalds and the only thing you've had is wine-just know its okay. When your kids are dressed better than you but acting like Satan-just know its okay.

When someone tries to tell you you aren't doing it right, or you feel like you are failing then just step back. Look at your kids and your life. See the smiles on those messy faces? They are proof that no matter how many times you fail in a day that they will always look up to you like you walked on water (until they become a teenager, of course.) They will love you no matter what.

Everyone fails at motherhood even if they don't admit it. Everyone has moments where they hide from the kids eating candy. Everyone has days that they stay home and hides from the world. You don't have to be the best mom. You don't have to have dinner on the table every night. You don't have to have the house perfectly clean and all the beds made everyday.

It's okay to not be okay.