Now I know many moms have mom guilt. I for sure do and many people will tell me I am doing the best for my child. That doesn't stop the fact I have guilt about things out of my control. So I want to raise awareness of the mom guilt that is 100 percent real in almost every mom I know of.

First, I want to tell you all about my mom guilt. When my son was born, I had pain breastfeeding and I made sure to ask the nurse if he had a tongue tie because I knew his latch was fine. She told me it had to be his latch because his tongue could stick out past his lip. His tongue barely could go past his bottom lip but I figured I would trust in the nurse since she works around infants all the time. fast forward to being home the first night, I was in pain and couldn't nurse. I was in tears from nursing and in tears from giving in to the formula the first night. The next day I got back at it. I did have bleeding and cracked nipples but I pushed through the pain for almost 4 more weeks until he got formula again. I was waiting for my husband at work and I was crying because of the pain and my baby was crying and couldn't latch.

When I was in the hospital after having my son, the lactation consultant was on vacation. I called and some people didn't know the hospital had a lactation consultant. So it was when my son was 6 weeks that I finally got a hold of the lady. I went to hell and back just to get her number. We went in and I told her I had sore cracked nipples and he spit up quite a bit sometimes. I had started pumping but my supply had dropped so I had to get him to latch again. I asked her to check for a tongue tie, she said he definitely has one. Lets just say I will not listen to someone who isn't trained in tongue and lip ties again. We scheduled to get his tongue tie fixed for the next week. I kept trying to latch him with a nipple shield and he would keep slipping off and not wanting to latch. When we went in to the hospital to get his tongue tie fixed the Ear, Nose and Throat surgeon said "It might not help, he can stick his tongue out." Lets just say this was a male doctor who has a reputation for trying to get out of these simple procedures and gives the mother's attitudes.

Once I told him I am still going to have it done for the third time, he took him back. When they brought him back the Lactation Consultant had him and told me to try and latch him on. Within a few seconds he was latched beautifully. But that was one of the last times he did. He was so use to getting his food from a bottle he hated latching. I got him to latch twice after that. The mom guilt was real.

Now I see some friends who are breastfeeding and some who are still breastfeeding for a long time. I am jealous of them. I slightly envy them. I feel bad for giving up but I know for us it was the best choice. But I still feel like I could have kept going if I would have continued to try. I made it further than most moms thankfully, but I still feel the guilt. I still fell bad because I can't feed my own child with my body like I was intended. "Breast is best" they say, and every time I see it I become more jealous of those women. I have seen women breastfeeding twins to a year, and I could barely make it to two and a half months.

I just want to show that mom guilt is real. Telling women to not feel guilty about the things they can't control is not going to help. Supporting them will. Don't mom shame others because of the choices they made. Maybe their choice was the best for them. Don't make others feel guilty because they don't do things the same way. Help prevent the mom guilt by supporting all mothers and their decisions!