There is more to beauty than what the eye sees, and that internal beauty is what will follow you through life. I can tell you from experience, every moment that you decide to be better and not bitter, your life changes. Think of it this way, if the mirror showed your soul, would you like what you see? We have to look beyond our insecurities and build others, in result building ourselves.
It’s so much more rewarding and encouraging to simply tell a girl she has beautiful hair rather than keeping the thought to yourself just because you envy her for it. She might just let you know how much she loves your eyes! More often than not, you will get what you give, and even if a comment isn’t returned, you might have very well made her day. That’s why it’s an amazing feeling to be kind to everyone, but I will tell you not to expect everyone to have the same heart as you. If they don't return the kind gesture, then at least you showed your character. You reached out to someone even if the time and effort wasn't appreciated, and that right there shows your control and capability to be a better person. The feeling you will get from that will be a lot more crediting than if you were to hold back. You have the ability to turn someone’s day around with a simple compliment and that’s a pretty special quality to think we all have.
I almost missed out on a great friend because we both let our insecurities get the best of us. We became awkward around each other and started to push each other away before we could actually get close. It almost felt like an unofficial competition that we were both creating in our minds, simply because we envied each other and didn’t know it. It sounds so silly now, looking back on the drama, but I was being ugly. That blue eyed brunette is a beautiful soul inside and out and I wish I would’ve let myself see the inside sooner. The day she reached out to me was the day we stopped being stubborn decided to be better than how we were acting, and now I can’t imagine my life without her. I read too much into my own envious thoughts and social media posts and assumed she was just a pretty girl who didn’t care to be my friend, but now I know her struggles with anxiety, which explained a lot about why she pushed me away to begin with. She had a lot going on inside her mind as well, it just required us talking to understand where we were both coming from. Now we support one another and remind each other of our great qualities all the time. She brings so much light to my life. With that being said, instead of talking about someone, talk to them. Rather than pushing people away, push your insecurities away! A lot of times we become cruel and jealous of someone because we are doubting ourselves, and unfortunately, it results in having a not-so-pretty personality. Love who you are and remind others to love themselves too. We never know the struggles that anyone is facing just by looking at them, and no one can guess yours either. So let people be mean or bitter if they want to be, but be better and reach out to them because they might just need an extra hand.
Social media can be something many of us often read too much into, but it can be used in many positive ways as well. If you see someone post something that seems off, it does anything but hurt to acknowledge them, even if you’ve never talked to them before. I know how it feels to have a stranger reach out to you. Sometimes you need that pick-me-up without even realizing. Just the other day a fellow writer messaged me just to let me know she was reading and loving my articles. It gave me so much more motivation and a sense of relief. Did she know how I would react or if it would even affect me? No way. She doesn’t even know me, but she took the time to recognize my work and let me know it too, and it absolutely made my day! Put your effort out there just because you can. I promise you having a good heart will get you further than trapping yourself in a negative bubble. We are all capable of spreading positive vibes.
Now don’t get me wrong when I stress how important personality is, I love dressing up too! I’m not at all saying you shouldn’t love wearing makeup or doing your hair, I’m just reminding you of what’s really important and what will open new doors for you. That outfit won’t look the same ten years from now, but your personality can stay the same, if not improve. We are all capable of helping others and it’s so easy to try. So along with styling your hair tomorrow, say hi to a stranger on the street. A smile goes a long way. Who knows, maybe that stranger will be me, and I’ll happen to let you know just how great your hair looks. Build yourself up by building others up. There shouldn't be anything not to love about the reflection in the mirror.
