Last week I read an article about how millennials are having less sex than other generations. Upon reading it, a few things stood out to me.
One of the more interesting details given from the study is the comparisons between the sexual habits of this generation and the ones that preceded it. This chart shows that less and less young people are having sex in high school and with fewer partners. Those who have had sex in high school are actually now in the minority. Contrast this with the habits of youth in earlier decades and things start to get interesting.
The perceived notion of millennials is that they are more sexually active than previous generations and have a higher sense of sexual liberation. According to this data, however, it is clear that our reputation is not realistic.
We should be less interested in what millennials' sexual habits are and more interested in why they are that way. The article suggests that some of the reasons millennials are having less sex is that they are putting off sex because of a pressure to succeed, their social lives are becoming increasingly conducted on-screen, they are faced with unrealistic expectations by dating apps and a wariness over date rape.
First, I totally understand why a pressure to succeed is a reason why millennials are less likely to have sex or, more significantly, less likely to be in relationships. There is a tremendous burden on millennials to succeed for several reasons; one being the importance of a college education beyond a high school education.
One example of high school competitiveness, at least in my school, was the significance of class ranks. Every semester, my peers and I would see how our GPA's compared to one another and who was what rank in our class. Looking back on it, it is extremely unhealthy for students to do this because it stress an importance to get a good grade to get into college rather than an importance to learn and better ourselves.
One of the greatest problems that face the millennial generation is student loan debt. Student loan debt in America, more than $1.2 trillion, has now surpassed credit card debt and is one of the only debts you can not get rid of -- ever. This raises the stakes for millennials and young people in general because we are gambling with our future by going to college. Never before has a college degree been so vital to securing a financially stable career and with all of this stress, it is not a surprise that less young people are spending time on any type of relationship, let alone romantic ones.
The next reason why millennials have such different habits is that our lives are becoming increasingly conducted on-screen. We can text, Skype, Snapchat, go on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. We can even use Uber and Postmates to get taxi service and dinner, groceries and whatever we want delivered to our homes. Face-to-face relationships are becoming increasingly outdated.
This gives rise to dating apps, like Tinder, which heavily rely on appearance in order to attract other people. This means that people who are "not attractive" are just less likely to be successful on these sites which results in less dates, less relationships and less sex. Pair all of these things with a heightened awareness and wariness of date rape and you get a generation that is less sexually active.
Personally, I am indifferent to the fact that millennials are having less sex. It doesn't really mean anything to me. What's actually important is whyit's happening. As a generation, I think that we need to look at how we are conducting our lives and try to better ourselves.
Yes, we have a lot more stress around school and the dangers of dating, but I don't think we should live our lives through screens that sit in our laps or rest in our palms. Through knowing that our generation is less sexually active, it is fair to say that we have less romantic relationships and probably less platonic ones. Just because we are all on social media like Twitter and Instagram does not mean that we are all "social." Humans are social creatures and we are healthier when we interact with others.
I am the first to say that I love using all of these apps and that it is often easier just to do things over the phone, but I often get in slumps where I crave social interaction. It's kind of like that feeling after you've binge-watched an entire season of a new show on Netflix. You know what I'm talking about.
So, put down the phone and close your laptop. That YouTube video and the last episodes of "Orange is the New Black" can wait. Go out and spend time with someone else in person. Go get lunch, go see a movie, go for a hike. Do something. Anything.