My grandparents have been married for 64 years. Although I tell my mama, my grandmother, that she is a walking encyclopedia, she dropped out of college in order to get married at 18 years old. She has stood by my papa, my grandfather, through every business venture, has dealt with his temperamental attitude and has nursed him through his poor health management.

Looking at them smile, telling stories of how papa landed his "band queen," I have to question how it's possible. I'd almost bet that half of the people reading this have divorced parents. Divorce has become more acceptable since my grandparents' generation, and now it's almost expected.

As a millennial, I've noticed the evolution of relationships and how they translate to marriage. I believe our parents lived through the experimental stage of divorce, seeing how society would change with broken families. Soon it became the norm, so millennials grew up with the idea that a lifelong commitment is not really a promise for forever.

We have been shown that giving up a relationship is easier than building up a relationship. This is partially why we get the reputation that we do. As technology is always changing and upgrading, so are our relationships. We are known for being impatient, lazy, and constantly looking for advancement.

This makes sense why we cannot compare to our grandparent's generation. They were not spoiled with the technology or the resources that we have today, which meant patience was not only a virtue but a necessity. Can you imagine not being able to look up an address within 10 seconds? Me neither. Their quality of life did not support laziness.

However, one could also argue that the stress was not near as extreme. Not every wife worked, giving her plenty of time to tend to her family. The roles in relationships were more established, making it clear what your duty was in the relationship. I am completely aware of the differences. But is life so advanced now that we can't keep a marriage?

Maybe we should slow down, an idea that always seems like a far away dream. Maybe we should wait until we really know a person before marrying them. Maybe we should work on our marriage in order to keep the promises made at the altar. Maybe we should truly pursue our dreams while we have the time so we don't have regrets. Maybe we should wait to have kids until we are financially and emotionally stable. Maybe we should slow down. Maybe, just maybe, adopting values from the past will better our future.