I know you are tired of hearing, "this is what you signed up for."
No matter how much you think you know prior to military life, you truly have no idea what is about to happen. Just when you think you have a grasp on life, it feels like you are thrown into a pile of unknowns. Well I'm here to tell you that you're going to be okay. Your family will be together again soon, your orders will come when they're meant to, and life will play itself out.
I am here to let you know, it is okay to cry, scream, get upset and even curse when it comes to this crazy life. Nothing about this is easy, but I will tell you, it is worth it. The benefits from long-distance and the strength that comes from this unpredictable lifestyle will build your relationship more than you could ever imagine. I know this deployment seems like it is never going to end, or long-distance is taking a toll on you while finishing your degree, but I'm here to tell you, you are doing everything you should be doing right now.
Military life is one of the most inconvenient, amazing, rewarding things I've personally ever experienced. I've met some of the best people in my life from the military community and I do not know what I would do without them. In order to accept the craziness, immerse yourself in it. If you spend your time thinking of the negatives, they will consume you. Join the base group and grab coffee with a few friends, they are most likely in need of friendship as much as you are, you are not alone. If you're interested in going to school and FASFA is taking too long to get back to you, see what classes are offered on base. If you have a hobby, post in the base group and see who also shares that interest!! If you're far away from family, invite people in the same situation over for dinner and adopt them as your "military family."
It is so easy to feel defeated when you have no idea what is coming next. It's easy to feel defeated when you feel like you are not in control of your own life. It is so easy to feel like you have no one. But you have to remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. And if you haven't been told this today, I'm proud of you and the sacrifices you make, too.
