We’ve all heard people say “she/he is way out of your league.” Usually this statement is being used to describe someone who is more physically attractive, someone you wouldn’t have the courage to speak to. Society has glorified looks for as far as time can go back. However, when you think about a life partner, you shouldn’t be concerned about looks before anything else. Someone could have the face of Aphrodite, or be the next Ryan Gosling in the making and still have the ugliest soul. Your life partner should be someone that wants to hear you complain about how you got stuck in traffic just because that was part of your day and they truly listen because they care. A life partner should be someone who knows how to pick you up after a long stressful day. Someone who gets you on a mental and spiritual level. To me I don’t think you should chase down the one that’s out of your league. You should be chasing the one that’s mentally out of your league.

Being with the person that’s mentally out of your league is a rewarding challenge. This person challenges you at a mental level, and causes you to think. This person has depth beyond their age in the way they talk. This person puts a drive in you to constantly be wanting to do better and improve yourself. They are much wiser than you, but you also learn from them. Their wisdom makes them beautiful, something that seems too distant to be reached. If people would open their superficial eyes, they would see that the mind holds a variety of different wonders. We should want to be with a person that stimulates our minds. Instead we have dating apps like Tinder where the message being sent is to left or right swipe with the only thing to be seen is a profile picture, unless of course you go out of your way to actually read the bio. Don’t limit yourself to just a pretty face, you deserve a beautiful mind.

The person that's mentally out of your league will have life goals for themselves, not short term goals that have no beneficial end point. They hold themselves to high standards, and never settle. If you find yourself to be with someone that is mentally out of your league, then count your lucky stars. People like that think critically before they dare enter into a relationship. This is because they want to know that you will be able to understand and appreciate the depth they have that comes along with their old soul. They do not want to waste their words on someone who is too foolish to listen. Date the person that's mentally out of your league, their worth the fight.