Have you ever wondered what kind of guy you need in your life? Well, over the past three years I have really been trying to figure that out. After many years of terrible, and toxic relationships, I have done a lot of introspecting. I have realized that sometimes just because I like a person and I think everything is and will be fine, Is not the case. Relationships can be very difficult as we all know for many reasons. However, have you ever asked yourself if you’re going after the right type of guy. Now I know this causes and brings up many questions, but just hold on for a moment. I asked many questions like Why do my relationships always fail? Why do I fall for the bad guy? Why can’t I seem to choose someone who’s good for me? How do I even find a person who will be good for me? And last, what is even good for me? These are all questions I’ve asked for a long time.

I finally think I understand what I personally require. Everyone requires something in a relationship, and when that something isn’t fulfilled that person will be forced to leave. So first, I had to find what I require. I personally require loyalty and honesty. That was the simple thing to find out. The more I asked, the more I seemed to question. I had eventually realized that I need a guy to be mature. Ever since I was young, I always seemed to have a sense of maturity. Weather that’s a good or bad thing, I’m still not sure. Even though I seemed to struggle in all my previous relationships, I began to realize a pattern. This pattern was that I was chasing after guys who weren’t on the same maturity level I needed. Once again this brought up more questions for me? I thought I was the one who had something wrong with me. I never seemed to want to do things others thought were fun. I would consider it unwise or stupid. My friends used to call me the party-pooper, because unfortunately, I was the mom of the group. Now don’t get me wrong, I have done stupid things that I thought were fun, but let’s be honest we all have. “Fun” is something that’s different for everyone. Not everyone enjoys the same things. I started researching myself. Finding the things I like and dislike and then comparing it to others. Suddenly it dawned on me that I wasn’t the problem. I realized that I wasn’t dating nor hanging out with the right crowd. What I found fun and amusing was not fun for them, and vice versa. Once I realized this, I decided to make a change in my dating life.

I now knew I needed someone a little older than me. Their maturity level needed to be higher to be compatible with mine. I have found that I need to seek after a guy whom is at least three years older than me. While I realize that everyone matures differently, I have just found that I still need that age gap. This has helped me a lot and in so many more ways than just the dating world. It taught me things about myself that I didn’t even know. So ladies, If you’re like me and you need a man who can meet your level of maturity, don’t be afraid to reach out for it. You’ll learn so much from the experience and it will help you tremendously.