Marriage? No, Thanks. | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Student Life

Marriage? No, Thanks.

You don't have to get married to be a happy individual

206
Marriage? No, Thanks.
Candace Jones

When I was little, I used to dream about my wedding: the white dress, the cake, who would be there, the decorations, and of course: who I'd marry. As I grew older, I didn't think it was necessary to have marriage as a life goal. I watched my parents fight over the last few years of their marriage before they got divorced. I didn't want that to happen to me. So naturally, I put it in the back of my mind to avoid the pressures of marriage. You don't need marriage to be a happy individual. Granted, now I'm engaged---but if I wasn't, my thought still stands.

The Millennial marriage rate is slowly declining.

Why aren’t people getting married anymore? The three main reasons people give for their singleness are that they haven’t found the right person (30%), aren’t financially stable enough (27%) and are not ready to settle down (22%). Many more young people are eschewing tying the knot, at least for a while, for shacking up. Cohabitation is much less common than marriage and cohabiting relationships are much less stable than marriages.

It seems nowadays that women are attracted to older men, who would most likely have experience, a secure job, and would hopefully want children at this point in their lives. Older men seem to be attracted to younger women who can have children. Women also are more employed compared to fifty years ago, so there wouldn't be much of a fear to become independent.

Fifty years ago, women wouldn't have been able to divorce so easily; There were restrictive laws, fear of being financially unstable, and there seemed to be more reasons to be married that were beneficial than not.

Another argument that can be made is, are people skipping marriage all together, or just delaying it?

It's okay to delay marriage, especially if you aren't ready or aren't actively seeking to get hitched. More and more young adults today are delaying marriage because they see it as a capstone that comes after achieving one’s life goals — professional and otherwise. These days, a happy marriage requires a serious commitment of time and energy that can be hard to maintain. Some might find it a risky habit of relying on another individual for emotional needs.

Either way, getting married can be a wonderful event to celebrate with your friends and family. Yet, it's okay not to tie the knot, too. There can be some pressures, but make sure it's what you want to do, and not everyone else's---You have the power to thrive as an individual both ways.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

15 Mind-Bending Riddles

Hopefully they will make you laugh.

190251
 Ilistrated image of the planet and images of questions
StableDiffusion

I've been super busy lately with school work, studying, etc. Besides the fact that I do nothing but AP chemistry and AP economics, I constantly think of stupid questions that are almost impossible to answer. So, maybe you could answer them for me, and if not then we can both wonder what the answers to these 15 questions could be.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Most Epic Aurora Borealis Photos: October 2024

As if May wasn't enough, a truly spectacular Northern Lights show lit up the sky on Oct. 10, 2024

14923
stunning aurora borealis display over a forest of trees and lake
StableDiffusion

From sea to shining sea, the United States was uniquely positioned for an incredible Aurora Borealis display on Thursday, Oct. 10, 2024, going into Friday, Oct. 11.

It was the second time this year after an historic geomagnetic storm in May 2024. Those Northern Lights were visible in Europe and North America, just like this latest rendition.

Keep Reading...Show less
 silhouette of a woman on the beach at sunrise
StableDiffusion

Content warning: This article contains descriptions of suicide/suicidal thoughts.

When you are feeling down, please know that there are many reasons to keep living.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

Power of Love Letters

I don't think I say it enough...

457884
Illistrated image of a letter with 2 red hearts
StableDiffusion

To My Loving Boyfriend,

  • Thank you for all that you do for me
  • Thank you for working through disagreements with me
  • Thank you for always supporting me
  • I appreciate you more than words can express
  • You have helped me grow and become a better person
  • I can't wait to see where life takes us next
  • I promise to cherish every moment with you
  • Thank you for being my best friend and confidante
  • I love you and everything you do

To start off, here's something I don't say nearly enough: thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You do so much for me that I can't even put into words how much I appreciate everything you do - and have done - for me over the course of our relationship so far. While every couple has their fair share of tiffs and disagreements, thank you for getting through all of them with me and making us a better couple at the other end. With any argument, we don't just throw in the towel and say we're done, but we work towards a solution that puts us in a greater place each day. Thank you for always working with me and never giving up on us.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

11 Signs You Grew Up In Hauppauge, NY

Because no one ever really leaves.

26643
Map of Hauppauge, New York
Google

Ah, yes, good old Hauppauge. We are that town in the dead center of Long Island that barely anyone knows how to pronounce unless they're from the town itself or live in a nearby area. Hauppauge is home to people of all kinds. We always have new families joining the community but honestly, the majority of the town is filled with people who never leave (high school alumni) and elders who have raised their kids here. Around the town, there are some just some landmarks and places that only the people of Hauppauge will ever understand the importance or even the annoyance of.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments