Throughout life everyone experiences heartbreak; some so unbearably painful that you don’t think you’ll bounce back. You constantly question yourself, “What’s wrong with me?” The answer is nothing -- nothing is wrong with you.
It took me so long to realize this.
Despite every time I’ve been lied to, cheated on, taken advantage of and misunderstood, I realized what was wrong is that he was never right. I spent too much time sulking over the amount of times I have come out of a situation with a broken heart that I overlooked what I deserved.
Growing up, girls think the ultimate goal is to “find a man who will ruin your lipstick and not your mascara” and although that’s partly true, it’s only half of the idea. The man you deserve will look at you, and really look at you -- so immensely that it moves chills down your spine and you swear there are indents in your skin on all of the places his eyes fell.
“What?” You’ll ask him.
He’ll respond with a smile on his face, “Nothing. I just like looking at you.”
You’ll hold your breath because for a second, you feel overwhelmed. But remember, you deserve this; you deserve him and all of the heartwarming things he’ll say to you.
The man you deserve will make you realize that material things don’t mean anything, their presence alone and the time you spend together is the greatest gift you could ask for. He won’t be selfish: in bed, with arguments,and he’ll even let you decide what you're watching. From “The Titanic,” “Hardball” or even “Lilo and Stitch” doesn’t matter to him, as long as he has you in his embrace throughout, so he can lean down and kiss you from time to time.
He’ll pick up on your love for watching sunsets and late night diner trips where he always pays. Within that time, he’ll get to know more and more about you: your family, friends and things that are important to you, and it won't just go in one ear out the other -- he’ll remember.
When you start ranting about things that most guys don’t care about, by the end of it he’ll still be listening. Not only is he still listening, but will try to help out as best he can, even if it doesn’t necessarily affect him. The man you deserve will offer up his opinions instead of saying, “That sucks.”
He won’t let you carry any of your burdens alone. You’ll want to open up to him and tell him about your dark past and expose all of your flaws because you’re confident he won’t look at you any different. In fact, he may be more infatuated with you after the fact.
Most importantly, never beg a man for the things you know you deserve. The right man will give you everything you deserve and everything you never knew about. Wait for it and be patient because sweetheart I promise you he’s out there. It might feel as impossible as finding a unicorn, but when you find it, you’ll know. You’ll forget you were broken in the first place.
