You are in the Grand Canyon, one of the most interesting and beautiful places in the entire earth. You are with a group of friends having fun and taking photos. You stand next to the giant canyon, and snap the photo. Later on your friend shows you the photo. Do you stare at the beauty of the canyon, no not at all? The first and last thing you will do is look at yourself in the photo. Did I look ok, did I look socially acceptable?

Why is this? Humans care most and foremost about themselves, you are literally the most important person in the world according to yourself. If you want to make friends and have people like you, you must understand this concept. Meeting someone new, albeit can be difficult, but it doesn’t need to be. Try and focus the conversation about them. Ask them where they are from, or what they are majoring in. The favorite thing that a person can talk about is themselves.

When the conversation gets more familiar, then tell about the other person about yourself. If you have any funny stories tell them. Time is very important, and you have to show someone that they are worth your time. People are hard wired to concentrate on the most pressing matter at hand. If you prove yourself to be an interesting person, people will be more inclined to talk to you. They will register you in their minds as the most important thing that they have to do with their time. If you are not interesting people will not register you as worth their time.

What constitutes as an interesting story. Are you in any interesting clubs? Have you met any interesting people, seen things on fascinating travels? Another topic is familiarity. If you have any classes with them people are more likely to talk with you because you are familiar to them.