With move-in day right around the corner, roommate relationships are just one of the things that weigh on the mind of freshman and transfer students alike. My roommate and I made contact for the first time in March and since then we've created such an amazing friendship.
Here are 10 ways I learned to build a good relationship with my roommate!
1. Try to Find Some Common Interests
A favorite movie or tv show, books, type of music or even a really good brunch place you both enjoy. Try and figure out something you both like and make that part of the things you do together.
​2. Play 20 Questions (Or a Shorter Version)
Play a game of 20 questions and ask your roommate questions about them you wanna know the answers too. Make sure you ask questions that if asked back you can also answer! Here are some example ones:
1. What is your favorite thing about your hometown?
2. Why did you choose (insert your college here)?
3. Why did you choose your major?
4. What are some things you wanna do this year (clubs, activities, sports, etc...)?
3. Have a Roomie Day
Set aside one day a week or month for time with just you and your roommate and/or suitemates. Maybe go out for a meal or even have a fun night watching movies. Try and do things everyone wants, even if you have to set it aside for a different day.
4. Be Honest About Your Expectations
Right off the get go, make sure to let your roommate know how you feel about cleanliness, what your usual sleep schedule is and anything else you believe is important. If you don't lay it all out on the table, this can lead to resentment and fights over small things. Be sure to communicate the same thing to your suitemates. If everyone is on the same page, things will go more smoothly later on.
5. Talk About Your Personal Time
Even the most extroverted person likes to have a moment or two to themselves. Make sure to communicate when you need alone time and let your roommate know that they should do the same.
6. Equally Split Up Chores and Expenses
Remember that it isn't only your room. Split up expenses as equally as possible between you and your roommate. You can also use apps like Chorma and OurHome to see who has and hasn't done chores. This will establish what the expectations are for the room and make sure no one person is stuck with all the chores.
7. Be The Most Genuine Version of Yourself
Juliana KeaneIf you are genuinely you, it should be no problem to connect with your roommate. Just be willing and open to talking. All of these can bring you one step closer to becoming good friends with your roommate!
