We have all been there, sitting in a bar with our best friends. Someone is upset because that one guy hasn’t texted them. It's something I think a lot of girls in college become used to. We accept this guy that didn’t have good intentions to start with, in hopes that he will change.

This is been a common scene I think for most girls. We go out for the night hoping to end up with the guy that you met a few weeks ago, but then you realize that he does that to a lot of girls and you were just another one that he could include in his list

Over the years, I have been through it and I get it. We spend so much time fixated on a guy that treats us horribly. They walk all over us and we think it's normal or fine. When in reality it’s never okay. I have let guys hurt me and walk all over me. I have felt the pain, and cried the tears. But as I get older I learned it’s never okay to let someone hurt you. A way to love yourself is to let the right people in.

We spend so much time fixated on the wrong person and on the thought that they can change. But if they were going to change it would have happened a while ago. The right guy will come when you least expect it, and will treat you right from the start.

I’m a little more old fashioned when it comes to relationships, but what I do know is that by finding your “person” is just one way to show yourself, love. By letting these guys hurt you and walk all over you, it's not giving yourself the love you need. Kick them to the curb when they treat you poorly because you don’t deserve that you deserve to be treated like gold.

Start today by looking at your relationships with friends or with significant others. Make sure that you not only feel love for them but for yourself as well. Make sure you feel proud of who you are and proud of who you’re with. A beautiful start to any relationship is the love you give yourself. The stronger that love is the more love you can give to other people.

Love will find you, when you love yourself. Remember that a relationship should have all of the good and none of the bad.