So many of us spend so much time searching for "the one.” We think that in order to feel complete and content in life, we must have someone by our side. We fantasize about growing older with this person, and coming home every day and seeing their face. We spend so much time dating and searching for that special person. This is all completely normal for us as human beings, but one thing that we often forget is how to love ourselves.

You are ideally the one that knows yourself the best. You know exactly what makes you happy and what makes you sad. What ticks you off and what gives you harmony. You notice every single one of your flaws––things that other people can't even see. We are both our own worst enemy and number one supporter. The voice inside your head is the one that holds you back, but also the one that pushes you to keep going. This is why it is so important to truly love ourselves. Because how can we commit and devote ourselves to another person if we cannot fully commit to ourselves?

We cannot hope for someone to support us if we spend all our time doubting ourselves. We cannot be fully honest with someone if we continuously lie to ourselves. If you cannot overcome your deepest insecurities, you cannot expect someone else to fuel your confidence.

This is why it is so important to support yourself. Set goals for yourself, and try to reach them. If you are working towards something that you really want, it will make you feel so amazing if you actually achieve it. That sense of satisfaction is one that only you can give yourself. We need to realize that we may have flaws, but so does everyone. If you continuously think about these flaws, you will become blinded to the great aspects about yourself––the ones that most people see. We need to listen to ourselves and do what truly makes us happy. In the end, you are all you have. You have to realize that every hardship, struggle or obstacle that you have overcome in life has made you who you are today.

Once we learn to fully accept ourselves in all aspects, we can open ourselves up to others. You can feel confident that they are seeing the good in us, because you finally see it. Love yourselves through all your mistakes, flaws and regrets. And once you have learned to love yourself, someone else will too.