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Why Loving Them Isn't Enough

"But I love them, I can't leave."

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Why Loving Them Isn't Enough
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We've all had that person we were, or are, in total, complete and mad love with. We would do anything for them, even when they don't deserve it.

Unfortunately, we don't live in a fairytale world where true love's kiss is the strongest magic of all, or where the only person trying to hurt us is an evil queen after the throne. No, we live in a world where the people who hurt us are the ones we kissed and called it true love. The people we love most can be the death of us.

When you love someone this much, you tend to excuse their mistakes, even the inexcusable ones. Often, we say, "But I love them." We say this, time and time again, mistake after mistake, each and every time they do or say something that hurts us. We know what they're doing is wrong, so we respond with "but I love them, I can't leave."

I'm here to tell you that, yes -- you can. Not only can you, but you should. If you find yourself making excuses for yourself as to why you can't leave them, regardless of the pain they cause you, it's time to find your worth and leave them behind.

Love is a strong emotion; to a lot of people, it's the strongest. It can put us on top of the clouds, but can also be the first thing to crush us deep into the ground. Love can blind us from seeing our worth, and it can easily cause us to completely belittle ourselves and become OK with someone saying and/or doing things to us we know are wrong. We tend to accept defeat when we love someone this much.

I know if you're currently in love with someone like this, you'd like to deny it. You'd like to say that you've only said that once or a few times. Even so, a few times is too many. The right person will never make you hurt in such a way that the only reason you're staying is because you love them enough to accept pain. The right person will never cause you pain on purpose. The right person will never cause you to say, "But I love them, I can't leave." The only way you're going to find the right person is if you let go and leave behind this person who is unworthy of you. They stress you out and bring pain and anger into your life.

This is to everyone, guys, girls, first relationship or married. If the person you are with is making your life difficult and you are the one constantly excusing them for it -- leave. You deserve more. Far more. The world has so much more to offer than a daily dose of stress and pain that this person causes you. Those rare, good times you have with this person that you're in love with, are not worth it. When you let go of them, your life will be full of special, amazing times without the pain and the good times will no longer be scarce like they were before. You deserve that happiness; you do not deserve to be belittled and walked on every day. They do not deserve you.

This person is acting as cinder blocks attached to your feet. They are weighing you down, preventing you from an incredible life full of bliss that you absolutely deserve to live. Quit making excuses for them. You do not need them. In fact, what you need is to let go of them. That is what is going to lead you to joy.

"But I love them," isn't enough. Loving someone does not excuse the constant pain they cause. You deserve more. Let go of this pain and find it.


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