Sometimes we see ourselves planning out the perfect life and somethings just don't go to that plan and it is okay. "I don't want to be with anyone who has kids." is something I constantly hear day to day. Honestly being with someone who has kids can be one of the greatest blessings you have ever had.

When loving someone with kids you find yourself so absorbed in how the kids are that you totally forget they are not biologically yours. Being 19 years old I could not imagine myself having children of my own at this moment but many of my best friends are single mothers, single fathers and have some of the best children around. Many people I know have fallen in love with these men and women no matter what they carried with them. Those kids are true blessings.

I often hear girls in particular tell me "He is super cute but he has a kid.. NEXT" and to me that is straight up judging someone before you get to know them. Those kids could be the saving grace to you or your potential spouse.

When I asked those who are step parents to kids they explain it in such a sense that unless it was happening to you, you honestly would not understand. One of my family members explained it like "You honestly are just as nervous the first time meeting them as they are meeting you but if you open your mind and heart they will fill in any holes you had." That to me is love.

Next time you are searching for a potential partner, do not give up on them because they have kids. Everyone needs love.