We all know her. She is the one who has been cheated on too many times. She is the one who is always falling for the wrong guy. She is the one who has been left standing in the dust. She is the one who is used to the feeling of loneliness.
She is the one with the broken heart.
Love is funny, especially for her. A special type of person is required to be the one who she ends up with. That person is going to experience a million ups and downs in order to reach to her soul. That person will understand the hell her heart has gone through. That person will somehow find every little piece of her heart that was shattered, and put them together. That person will be the one that takes apart her wall, brick by brick, until he gets to her.
That person will love her, but the journey will not be easy, because loving the girl with the broken heart is different for so many reasons.
She will test your patience.
She has gotten familiar with everyone leaving, so she doubts you will stay. She believes you will flee, so she runs before you get the chance. She will push you away because that will hurt less than rejection, again. But deep down she knows that running is the last thing she wants to do. She just wants to know that you are willing to stay for the long haul.
Wait for her, she wants to believe in you.
She will be emotional.
Her feelings change quicker than a traffic light turns from green to red. She is triggered by things you could not imagine. The way you touched her hand. The song you sang to her. The flowers you gave her on a special day. It all reminds her of something she once had, and lost. You will see her smile brighter than the sun, then in a second her tears fall down like rain. She gets irritated at some things you may find silly, but she has a different perspective after what she has been through. Her heart is one that is used to its fullest potential, which is why every scratch and tear are more intense when they hit her. She feels everything.
Be gentle with her, she is still coping.
She will not want your help.
She has been used to surviving alone for so long, she will never admit when she could use a little guidance. She keeps a straight face even when her inner core is shaking and overwhelmed. She refuses to get help from someone else because afterwards she holds herself to owing that person her life. She has always been the giver, and does not like to receive hand-outs. She is the person who would rather let herself starve then have to ask for food. She would sell every last piece of clothing for money, instead of asking for cash. She has fought so long for herself, she does not know what it is like when someone genuinely gives to her out of kindness.
Continue giving to her, she will learn you do not expect anything in return.
She will take time to trust you.
She is the girl who will pour her soul when she first meets you, and then immediately covers herself and hides the next. She knows that sharing her pain gives others comfort, but she cannot connect for too long in case they stick around. She is an open book, but also a novel that is only written in her heart. She is not an easy read, but bountiful secrets hidden between the lines on each page. Each word is a hidden puzzle, and she wants you to take the time to understand every one. The moment you turn the page too quickly, she panics, so make sure to go at her pace.
Reassure her that everything will be okay, she is still trying to believe.
She will want to take care of you.
She is that player on the team that carries the weight when everyone else is having a rough game. She is the student in the group who does all of the research for the project when the other peers do not show up for class. She is the associate who stays late in the store because another employee called out. She is the one always taking care of others and problem solving. She will bend over backwards for you to smile at least once every day. She will move mountains to hear you laugh. She will cross the ocean to make you happy.
Appreciate her kindness, giving to you gives her purpose.
She will not give up on you.
She may try to run, but if you are still there, eventually she will feel safe. She will know the comfort of your voice. She will find home in your arms. She will believe in you. She will be that mom that attends every child’s recital and sporting event. She will endure the toughest times with you. She will be in the hospital with you until 3 a.m. when you get food poisoning. She will hold your hand at your grandfather’s funeral. She will step up when she knows you need her to. She will not leave your side.
Stay with her, she will give you endless support.
She will give you her heart.
It may takes weeks, months, or years, but she will give her whole heart to you. She needs to make sure that you can piece together what has been broken. She wants to explore the world with you, and will give you a part of her every where she goes. You will find out her quirks, her mistakes, her passions, her hopes, her dreams, her goals, and her beliefs. You will find that even though her heart was broken, her love is still beautiful.
Love her, she will love you.
