Obese people die eight years earlier on average. Now due to all the “positive body image” that has been marketed to you ladies, you may think, “I have real curves and I’m not obese.” You are probably wrong.

Disclaimer: This is only written mainly to women because there is not a true “love your size” campaign pushed towards men besides glorifying "dad bods."

Now, I can say speaking as a former fatty, I know how it is. You lie to yourself. You buy nice clothes as a distraction. People compliment how great your hair and makeup is. You lie to yourself every day. This pissed me off as I lost the weight I had gained and I wished someone had shown me the truth. Well, call me a lighthouse, 'cause I’m about to show you the way.

Let’s get past all the obvious health hazards of being fat and get into why you have been lied to. Every time I see a “body positive” image, I think about the way cigarettes were advertised. They advertised it as beautiful, natural, few health effects and even targeted young adults. They wanted you to believe it wasn’t bad to smoke and encouraged a youth-led movement. Sound familiar? It’s just as dangerous.

“Body Positive” messages are the future smoking messages. Those of you who haven’t checked your BMI are like smokers never getting that cough checked out. The end result for both: body bags. I can see in 20 years from now anti-body positive campaigns coming out just like the “Truth” campaign against big tobacco. Instead of body bags, though, they will put thousands of piano boxes outside corporations who convinced them it was okay to be obese. People will protest outside of “plus size” stores for putting such a strain on the health care system and encouraging people to stay the way they are. Lawsuits will follow, mothers experiencing illness and still lying to themselves about how they are “healthy” and “confident in their skin” as their children beg them to go for a run and eat a balanced diet. We already know the dangers of being overweight, yet you are being deceived into telling yourself, “I’m beautiful the way I am” while companies make millions off you and you slowly rot away in your size 14 pants. You might as well be serving vodka at an AA meeting and telling them how great they are.

This is not to condemn, only helping open your eyes. I’ve been in your shoes and trust me when I say a bunch of overweight woman running around talking about how beautiful they are makes me sad. You are not living up to your potential as a person and showing that you have almost no self-respect. You should never settle to be comfortable in your own skin unless you like the idea of sitting in it a decade early six feet under, and having your family miss out on almost 10 years of memories with you. Take this how you want, but it is meant to be tough love. This isn't hate for everyone with a few extra pounds or a certain body type. This is for those of you who, like me, are putting their body through serious health risks and trying to celebrate that fact.

“Never pick a fight with an ugly person. They've got nothing to lose.” — Robin Williams