Loving a woman is the best and worst thing in the world. It’s so amazing because, as another woman, she understands so much about you. It really is true that no one can love a woman like another woman. And I mean that in so many ways-- emotionally, mentally, and even physically. At the same time, it can be so terrible because there is so much attachment and so much connection. It can be dangerous. I have (romantically) loved few women in my 20 years of living, and I can definitely say that I have experienced the best and the worst, the amazing and the terrible, of loving a woman.

When discussing my love for women with other women who do not share the same love, I always hear the excuse that two women would be too much drama, too many emotions, and just too much of everything in general. Having to deal with two periods every month, all of that PMS, plus the bad attitudes that women are stereotyped to have… Well, if all of that were true then I wouldn’t want to love a woman either! But it is most certainly not. Actually, the whole two period situation isn’t really that bad. I always know what my woman wants when she is curled up in the fetal position because her cramps are so bad. If it’s my time of the month and I’m being a little grumpy, my lady always knows how to cheer me up. I can’t imagine dealing with some ignorant man who doesn’t even know what a cramp feels like, who doesn’t know which tampons are the best. It’s nice that she already knows everything. And in no way am I saying that I hate men and men know nothing about periods, but I bet that any girl dating a guy can recall a time where she was on her period and he was being an annoying idiot. Don’t lie… I know it happens to everyone.

Loving a woman is like having your very best girl friend around all the time. Granted, having your best friend around all the time can get annoying, but having anyone around you 24 hours a day is bound to cause some irritation. Imagine always having someone to gossip with, who will never judge you, someone who you can be totally and fully open with. This may sound bad, but I love to gossip. It’s such an unattractive flaw, I know. But my partner, she loves it! And we are always on the same page when we are gossiping and talking about people. I know, it sounds terrible. But everyone deserves to have at least one person they can trust with every thought in that goes through their mind. For me, that is my girlfriend. Just in general, it has always been easier for me to open up to women. I’ve been surrounded by women my whole life! Women just make me comfortable, I guess. That doesn’t mean that I shun any man that walks into my life, not at all. I just know that, at the end of the day, I have so many strong women that I can depend on in my life and zero men.

Aside from the romantic love, platonic love for another woman is also just as amazing and terrible. Loving and appreciating a woman is beautiful, and I promise it doesn’t make you some kind of “lesbian.” Saying that your best friend is one of the most gorgeous girls you’ve ever seen, that’s amazing. You go girl! You keep building her up! You let her know! But, I know that sometimes it is hard for us to build each other up because jealousy gets in the way. I feel like most of the time, we let our jealousy get in the way of the big picture here… Another woman’s success shouldn’t make you hate her or talk crap about her, it should make you be proud of her! Proud to be her sister! And if not that, then it should make you want to work harder for yourself!

I love loving and appreciating women, and I love seeing women love and appreciate each other, because, like I said before, who better to love a woman than another woman!