I'm going to start off by saying that my boyfriend is the absolute best boyfriend in the entire world. He is every thing I could have ever hoped for and more. He's not only my boyfriend and the love of my life, but also one of my best friends.
Backstory here, I got out of a long relationship back in November. My then-boyfriend was my first real love and I had met him on the first day of school my freshman year of college. We were together for around a year, and I thought that we were going to be together for a long time and was obviously sad once our relationship came to an end. Last semester, I went into the headspace that I was going to focus only on me, my family, my friends, my education, and my extracurriculars. At the start of the semester, I gained a lot of new friends and became closer with the friends that I had already been friends with. I went out of the country for the first time with my friends and my little to have a trip of a lifetime in Costa Rica (during spring break of course), and gained another little and bestfriend from that trip. I was high on life, and definitely wasn't looking for love, in fact, I was avoiding it. Then along came my boyfriend.
I reconnected with an old friend who lived with seven other boys in his fraternity. I met so many new people and got some of the best guy friends I could ever ask for. One of these best friends, turned into my boyfriend and love of my life. Funny thing is, we actually met our freshman year of college when him and a few of his brothers were walking around campus at night and had to get a certain amount of girls phone numbers and take a picture with him. We exchanged numbers and I would see him occasionally at his frat parties, but would only exchange the occasional "hey, how you doing?" at parties. When I went to my friends house, it turns out he was one of his roommates and I immediately noticed how attractive he was. We slowly became friends after we would trash talk each other over football - disclaimer: His team is the Eagles and my team is the Cowboys #rivals. After we became friends and I would come over to hang out with the boys almost every day, I started to flirt with him I just had an innocent crush and definitely was not looking for a relationship out of this. In response, I would get a "what's up bro?". I remember telling all my girlfriends that I had a crush on him and he was definitely friend-zoning me. So, I got the balls to ask him to one of my date dashes and the rest was history.
We had our first kiss at the date dash and the rest was history. We innocently flirted throughout the semester, but again, I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, despite all of my friends telling me he was the one for me and I should really date him. Things began to get more serious and he met my family, and we starting going on dates. June 1st was the day we became official. We have been going strong and he has been amazing towards me. He treats me so well and is there for me no matter what, which includes hours and hours at the hospital with me for my mom who is very sick. We even have a puppy together named Madden (follow baby_madden on insta!).
So long story short, love shows up when you least expect it. Don't try hard to find love or you're next relationship, because it will only stress you out and make you feel sad. The best love finds you when you aren't searching for it. Also, if you ever get out of a long relationship, and you think that you will never find a boyfriend as good as your last - it's just not true. I had thought that way initially, and now I am in a great, loving, and supportive relationship. Don't worry, you will find the love you want and deserve.