"Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live." -Norman Cousins
I came across this quote while walking down a hallway in my dorm building. My friend Morgan writes a quote on the whiteboard on her door daily. I tend to make a conscious effort to pass by and read every day's quote. On February 24, this was the quote and it turned my world upside down. I read it and read it again until I finally processed it and that is when it hit me hard. I felt like I was washed out by a tsunami. The death of my loved ones has always been one of my greatest fears, but at that moment, I had the realization that what I was truly afraid of was the effect the loss would have on me.
The reality is, everybody eventually dies, however, some deaths paralyze you and others merely cause sympathy. When you lose someone close to you, especially to death, you lose a part of yourself. Unfortunately, you do not always regain what you have lost. It is actually more likely that you never find that lost piece because it only existed when your loved one was around.
The death of someone you hold dear to your heart, even a pet, really does kill something inside of you. I, like many of you, have dealt with the harsh consequences of losing someone. Until recently, I genuinely believed that it was only the loss of the people and the animals that hurt me. I now realize that it is the loss of their high spirits and the joy they brought into my life that eats away at me. With every loss, a part of me died as well, and according to Cousins, this is the true loss.
Since "the greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live", we must learn to live with the loss of our loved ones in order not deal with such a great loss. The death of someone you care about will always take a toll on you, but the quality of your life after they are gone should not deteriorate. Your lost family, friends, animals, etc. live on through you. Those high spirits and that joy you once felt lives on in your heart.
Do not allow the part of you that reflects the friendship you once loved die. If you allow someone's death to kill your good spirits then you are allowing yourself to be overtaken by death, and in that sense part of you becomes dead while you are still alive. Keep your lost loved ones close through the good memories, through your good spirits, and through your love for them as well as others.
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The Daily Struggles of Being a College Commuter
It's not all morning coffees and singing along to the radio.
22 December
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morethanwheels
I've been in college for four years now. I spent half my time as a commuter and half as a resident so I've experienced both sides of the housing spectrum. One thing I've learned comparing the two is that my struggles as a commuter far outweigh anything I went through while living on campus. Commuters have to deal with the problems school brings along with a slew of other issues; I've filled up my gas tank in the worst kind of weather conditions and napped in random places in public more times than I'm proud to say of. This is a list of some of the most challenging aspects of being a commuter.
You can't just go to your room to take a nap in the middle of your classes.
Some commuters are lucky enough to live only a few minutes from campus, but I live 50 minutes away so I've napped in some really strange places. There's one secret spot on campus that is my go to, but I can't give that one away just in case I need it this finals week.
Having to spend all your extra cash on gas for your car.
There is nothing I hate spending money on more than filling up my gas tank. I have a car with pretty decent gas mileage but it feels like I fill the tank more than once a week.
 Speaking of money, you probably don't have a meal plan so you're forced to scrounge up some change or mooch off of your friends.
I tried to buy some chips the other day for lunch and my connect card only had 14 cents on it; I dug through my wallet to find some change but that moment was pretty embarrassing. I hate begging for someone to swipe me into the dining hall, but my friends usually have too many meal swipes left anyway. They're saints.
It can be harder to maintain the friendships you make with people from class.
The moment you tell them you're a commuter, they make that "oh god I'm so sorry face" and you don't really see them much after that. I get it though, it's easier to be friends with people who are convenient as opposed to the ones who are either working, in class, or driving home when you want to hang out.
Finding a parking spot.
For one, the parking lot you need to parking in is probably full, so you're stuck waiting for someone to leave then following them slowly to their car to take their spot. It's extremely awkward and I hate it but it's absolutely necessary. For some reason, my school made up of 60 percent commuters decided to put the parking garage in east nowhere instead of the parking lot everyone uses the most. I get that it would have been difficult to build on that lot because there would be nowhere for commuters to park during construction but I'm still bitter about it.
It can be harder to be involved on campus because between your one, two, or three jobs and school you don't have much free time.
Someone's gotta pay for all that gas.
When you try to be super involved on campus, it can kill your sleep schedule.
I decided to join a sorority and there are some nights where by the time I've finished my 50 minute drive home I just collapse into bed and pass out with my regular clothes on. I'm super glad I joined because it keeps me on campus instead of just driving home after class but the exhaustion is real.
It's impossible to do homework at home, but staying on campus isn't an option sometimes.
I can't concentrate on anything at home so I usually do my homework while I'm on campus, but it would be nice to be able to walk from the library straight to your room.
There are surveys and events that you can't participate in because you're a commuter.
Every semester I get the same email from ResNet telling me "you can win a free iPad by taking this survey" but to qualify you have to be a resident. It's like danging a carrot in front of a horse's face.
 Group projects are the bane of your existence.
It's already difficult enough working around everyone's class schedule, but then you have to factor in the days you're actually on campus and available to do the project. By the end of it you're all just emailing one another and hoping for the best.
Traffic.
There is nothing worse than adding extra time to an already annoying commute.
Your backpack rivals that of a survivalist trekking in the woods.
You need everything for all of your classes because why would you want to walk all the way back to your car in east nowhere then back to civilization?
Driving all the way to campus to find a note on the door of your classroom saying class was cancelled.
No email, just pure and utter disregard for everyone and everything.
There are a lot of struggles commuter students face, but I wouldn't trade home-cooked food, my own bed, and snuggling with my cat every night for anything.
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15 Times Michael Scott's Life Was Worse Than Your Life
Because have you ever had to endure grilling your foot on a George Foreman?
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Most of the time, the world's (self-proclaimed) greatest boss is just that, the greatest. I mean, come on, he's Michael Freakin' Scott after all! But every once in a while, his life hits a bit of a speed bump. (or he actually hits Meredith...) So if you personally are struggling through a hard time, you know what they say: misery loves company! Here are 15 times Michael Scott's life was worse than your life:
1. When he just wanted bacon from his George Foreman grill
2. When he had money (and Jan) issues
3. When he got upstaged at Phyllis' wedding
4. When he unintentionally saved Meredith from rabies
5. When he wore a "bisexual" suit
6. When he had to apologize to Jesus
7. When his GPS drove him into a lake
8. When he had to deal with Ryan as his boss
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11. When he struggled with a X-Mas break up
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12 Midnight NYE: Fun Ideas!
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When the clock strikes twelve midnight on New Year's Eve, do you ever find yourself lost regarding what to do during that big moment? It's a very important moment. It is the first moment of the New Year, doesn't it seem like you should be doing something grand, something meaningful, something spontaneous? Sure, many decide to spend the moment on the lips of another, but what good is that? Take a look at these other suggestions on how to ring in the New Year that are much more spectacular and exciting than a simple little kiss.
Run Around Clanging Pots and Pans in Everyone's Face
StableDiffusionThis tradition is meant to drive away bad spirits of the past, but honestly, it's more like a free concert...your friends should really be paying you for your services if you decide to do this on New Year's Eve.
Eat the Last Few Pigs in a Blanket
StableDiffusionIt's been sitting there since what, 8:00? You snooze you lose, and besides, no one's paying attention to you anyway.
Pop Twelve White Grapes
StableDiffusionIf you were in Spain, everyone would be doing just this. One grape for every month of the year. It's supposed to be lucky and stuff.
Burn Something
Photo by Ian Schneider on UnsplashIt's really not that odd-- families in Ecuador burn scarecrows every year on New Year's Eve. It's a symbol of diminishing the negativity of last year. Perhaps preform this one outside though, just to be safe of course.
Smash Things Against a Wall
Photo by Lidye on UnsplashWe can thank the Irish for this bright idea, they use bread specifically though. Who knows why this is a tradition, but it certainly seems like it could be incredibly soothing, don't you think?
Spontaneously Begin an Irish Jig
Photo by Melissa Askew on UnsplashThis isn't lucky or symbolic of anything, but it'll give you something to do at the stroke of midnight and you'll look god damn cool doing it.
Call Your Mother
rotary telephone
Photo by Vinicius "amnx" Amano on UnsplashWell, she did give birth to you. Midnight on New Year's Eve seems as good a time as any to thank her.
Throw a Coffee Table Out a Window
Photo by Kinga Howard on UnsplashAccording to South African tradition, it doesn't necessarily have to be a coffee table. It could be a futon, an ottoman, an armoire, really any piece of furniture that's old. It's for luck of course.
Sing "Auld Lang Syne" at the Top of Your Lungs
Photo by Chang Duong on UnsplashChannel your inner Beyonce, or Mariah, or whoever your Pop Star Diva Queen is and belt that tune. It'll be fantastic mood music.
Do Some Squats
Photo by Meghan Holmes on UnsplashMay as well start the New Year off by working on your inevitable resolution to drop some pounds. Why waste a single moment, you're likely forget the resolution by February anyway.
Swan Dive into a Nearly Freezing Body of Water
Photo by Brayden Prato on UnsplashAnother foreign tradition, this one is practiced by Germans. The kick of it is, you've got to do it while holding a lit torch. Again, who knows why this is a tradition, but its certainly sounds like a fun little challenge to ring in the New Year.
Take a Shot
Photo by Duri from Mocup on UnsplashAnd by shot, naturally I mean a snapshot. Perhaps a group photo, a selfie, or even an unfortunate snipe of your best friend. You'll feel loads better knowing you'll have something to always remember the first moments of 2025 by.
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11 Christmas Songs To Put You In A Holiday Mood
Time to be merry and bright.
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I am very serious about the Christmas season. It's one of my favorite things, and I love it all from gift-giving to baking to the decorations, but I especially love Christmas music. Here are 11 songs you should consider adding to your Christmas playlists.
"First Noel" by Leslie Odom, Jr
Leslie Odom, Jr. (a.k.a. Aaron Burr in " Hamilton") released a Christmas album this year, and his cover of "First Noel" warms my soul.
"A Holly Jolly Christmas" by Burl Ives
There's just something so merry about Burl Ives's version. Plus, it's a classic.
"Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" by Kelly Clarkson
I'm sure some will say it's sacrilegious to like any other version but Judy Garland's, but the notes Kelly hits are on point.
"All I Want for Christmas Is You" by Mariah Carey
I mean, y'all knew I had to include this song, right? One of my best friends and I send each other all the Vines of this song.
"Christmas (Baby Please Come Home" by Michael Buble
No Christmas playlist is complete without Michael, and this is one of the best on his album.
"Last Christmas" by Taylor Swift
One of my few complaints about Taylor is that she only released one Christmas album, and that was almost ten years ago. But her cover of "Last Christmas" is definitely a hit, in my opinion.
"The Christmas Song" by Josh Groban
I'm pretty sure everyone has their favorite cover of this holiday classic, but in my book, Josh Groban is king. Have some chestnuts, y'all.
"White Christmas" by Idina Menzel
Of course the Bing Crosby version from the "White Christmas" movie is my preferred version, but Spotify no longer has it, so Idina's cover is my second favorite.
"O Holy Night" by David Archuleta
He has the voice of an angel.
"Believe" by Josh Groban
"The Polar Express" is one of my favorite Christmas movies, and this song absolutely puts me in a holiday mood.
"Les cloches du hameau" by Celine Dion
I love all things French so obviously my playlist has a French carol.
So what songs do you have on your Christmas playlist?
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CampusExplorer
New year, new semester, not the same old thing. This semester will be a semester to redeem all the mistakes made in the previous five months.
1. I will wake up (sorta) on time for class.
Let's face it, last semester you woke up with enough time to brush your teeth and get to class and even then you were about 10 minutes late and rollin' in with some pretty unfortunate bed head. This semester we will set our alarms, wake up with time to get ready, and get to class on time!
With that being said it brings me to another thing I will actually (try) and do this semester.
2. I will look decent for class.
OK maybe not every single day, but at least twice a week, put effort into your appearance. I know that that pair of sweats and that baggy t-shirt stay calling your name; however, they need to understand that there are clothes in your closet that have not seen the light of day in months due to your inability to actually put on a decent looking outfit. Let your sweats know that you need to wear other clothes or before you know it your jeans will have somehow shrunk a size (yes it happens). It doesn't take too much effort to put on a nice outfit and who knows that adorable top in the back of your closet may catch the eye of a potential "bae."
3. I will go to the gym more.
After being home for a month or more and your family stuffing you with actual good food, a few pounds may have introduced themselves to you. When going back to school this is a time for you to cut them out of your life, you probably have not gotten that attached to them so now would be a good time to hike across campus to the gym and start getting that perfect body (spring break is coming up).
4. I will go to the library and study more.
See how I said "go to the library and study" and not "go to the library and sleep, watch Netflix, or do anything but study." Your grades are counting on you to lift them up when they are down and you can't do that when you try and cram for that big test the night before. This semester you are challenged to study not a few days before, but weeks before. This way you can actually learn and understand the material. It helps -- I promise.
5. I will meet new people.
Yes, your old friends are fun and you always have a good time with them, but it is never a bad thing to branch out and meet new people. Join a new club or talk to that random person who sits beside you in class, not only could you make a new friend you could have a new person to study with!
Now, go make some friends, get to class on time, look decent, and get your study on.
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