When you meet someone who speaks your language, there is a good chance you'll feel loved by them. However, when interacting with someone whose love language differs from yours, it's possible to feel unloved. Therefore, understanding your partner's love language and knowing your own will help build better relationships.

A great proxy measure to determine whether your partner feels loved is to gauge their emotional and physical responses while communicating with you. While they may not be able to tell you verbally, there are ways to communicate effectively what they need in order to feel that love. We hope you can use these tips to make your spouse or significant other feel loved!

Love Language: Quality Time

Going out on a smoothie date or sitting down with your partner to talk is a great way to show them that you care. But make sure you're actually listening and taking the time to really get to know your partner. This is not the same as just sitting in silence together — it's about giving each other your full attention, at least for a short period. It can be hard for introverts who like quiet time alone (and often feel drained by social situations) to find the energy for this date, but it can be very rewarding for both partners. When they realize they mean something to you, they'll feel more confident in the relationship too!

Love Language: Acts of Service

Acts of service are those you do to help your partner, whether making her a healthy snack for breakfast or cleaning out the garage. It's not just about doing chores, though. It's about going above and beyond what is expected of you as a partner in your relationship.

An example of an act of service would be taking out the trash after you've been working all day. Another example would be waking up early on Sunday morning to surprise her with flowers on her pillow before she wakes up.

This love language resonates so much with women because they tend to be more empathetic than men, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, the proponent of The Theory of 5 Love Languages. A woman who receives acts of service from their partner feels like they are being taken care of and appreciated by them, which makes them feel special and loved!

Love Language: Words of Affirmation

Words are powerful. They can lift us or tear us down. Words can make us feel loved, accepted, and safe. Words can also cause pain and confusion if used improperly.

Words of affirmation express love, support, and admiration for another person. It's easy to tell someone you love or admire their looks or accomplishments, but words of affirmation go deeper. They are the words we use to communicate our feelings about who someone is as a person and what they mean to us in our lives.

Affirmations communicate that it's important to know the unique qualities of your mate and how those qualities make them special in your eyes. The people we love should be recognized for who they are individually, not just because they're part of our families or social circle but because they are unique individuals with a story all their own.

Love Language: Physical Touch

Physical touch is the way most of us naturally show love and affection. It can be a hug, a kiss, holding hands, or even sitting close together. It doesn’t have to be sexual.

Touching is a basic human need, and we want to be touched by those we care about. Touching also forms an important part of our non-verbal communication.

Some people with this love language may give hugs freely to others but find that others don't like to receive hugs from them because they come on too strong or too close for comfort (or they're afraid of being hugged). This can cause problems in personal relationships and make it difficult to develop friendships with people who have different love languages.

Love Language: Receiving gifts

Receiving gifts is the language of love for a lot of people. It's one of the most common ways to show someone you care.

It's also extremely easy to do. You don't need to be an expert in love languages or even know your partner's primary love language to make them feel loved and appreciated. All you need is a little creativity and the willingness to take some time out of your day to show someone that they matter to you.

The person who loves receiving gifts will feel like they are on top of the world when they receive something as simple as a bouquet or a box of candy, but there are other ways to go about it too. Think about what would make your partner happy, and then get creative with how you can surprise them with something special for no reason!

Takeaway

The bottom line is that love is a choice and should be consciously worked on. If you want to be in love with your partner, intentionally choose to do so. The five love languages can help you, they provide an easy way to find out what the needs of your partner are. If you understand their love language and give them what they need, they will feel loved, appreciated, and provided for by you. You may even understand yourself more than if you hadn't explored the five love languages.

The point is that each person has a different way of receiving love, of knowing that someone cares for them. For a relationship to be successful, both partners must have their love language met for it to be satisfying and loving.