Love doesn’t exist.

There are two schools of thought. Love exists, and love doesn’t exist.

My friends and I have talked, laughed, and fought about this topic time and time again. Both sides are very passionate about why they think this way it might as well be Democrats vs. Republicans or Chicago deep dish vs. a New York slice! So, playing devil’s advocate (even though he usually doesn’t need any help) I am pointing out the issues with both.

For you that don’t know, I am single.

Not desperately single, but the kind when you see a couple on Instagram you think about what life would be like with a cute Insta prop. So currently love doesn’t exist in my life.

I have been in love once (not including of course the love of my family and friends, I mean like romantically). But that ended the end of my freshman year of college. But since then I haven’t had a serious BF, SO, partner, etc. So, I would make the statement that love doesn’t exist… in my life.

But I am not bitter. I have been in two weddings in the last year, and I couldn’t be happier for them. My brother is getting married to the love of his life, and I am so excited for both of them.

I just went to her bachelorette party this past weekend, and the way she talked about him just proved how much they really love each other. I have seen love last with my parents.

This July my parents will have been married for 31 years! 31 years is a long time to put up with someone. My parents still kiss each other before they leave for work that day and talk about each other like they just started dating. So, I believe that love exists in their lives.

I thankfully have never had my heart broken. I guess not yet because I think it is scientifically impossible to not go through heartbreak, but my friends have. Not to call them out but they are the ones that throw out love forever. Which I would be too. I have never gone through that, so I have no idea how I would respond, but it could very well be me kicking love to the curb.

But then there are people like me who don’t really want that right now. Love doesn’t exist in my life right now, and I hope I can postpone that part in my life for a while. I don’t think we get a say in when we fall in love, but I hope it is after I start my career.

So, to the people that think love exists, congrats.

I’m glad you have found someone that makes you happier, a better version of yourself, or a hopeless romantic. But be careful not to rub it in someone’s face who 1. wants to be single 2. wants to be in a relationship but hasn’t found that lucky someone or 3. have been heartbroken and is grieving.

For those that think love doesn’t exist, that might be true for you right now, but don’t crush the people that think love does exist because it could very well be in their life.

Except what each other believe, and show respect to each side, even if you think you are right.