All You Need Is Love

Sitting in my room alone, listening to the insolent nuisance of the ne’er-do-wells on my floor as they trash themselves in their Saturday night ritual. I find myself pondering on a question that I was asked earlier by a companion who was facing relationship difficulties. He asked me how one defines love. This got me thinking, Love is something that people have talked about for ages. Wrote ballads about, a concept that has monopolized the entertainment industry. Yet we are still plagued with the question of what exactly love is. And before you say it, a IT IS NOT AN OPEN DOOR. (It’s been three years people. Get over it.)

I once read a metaphor that Love is giving your partner a loaded handgun, and having them hold it against your head. And trusting that no matter what happens, no matter how crazy things get. Your partners love for you is stronger than their desire to pull the trigger. And when that trigger gets pulled we question love, and we turn on it. Because no matter how much we want them to stay, we break ourselves for them. In hopes that when it comes down to it, this selflessness is enough to make them stay. But we are forced to sit there as they walk out the door forever vanished into that warm Vermont evening. We have no other reason to explain this happening and this agony. SO we turn to love for the reason that we are in pain. But the reality is this, love itself is not waiting here alone in agony. This however, is false. We as humans always look for the safest and most settling answer to our problems. Yet when we turn on love we are not realizing the root of the problem. Rather it is the lack of love that was present. We can’t force love. It is a complicated and confusing thing. And in its truest and rarest form it is beautiful, the most powerful force in the universe.

Love requires Passion, Selflessness, Devotion, Strength, Trust, and Faith. If we are not passionate, then there is no purpose. Love must be expressed in the best ways possible. It creates a feeling that is so great you want to scream to the world about this extreme euphoria. This is what love is. Love is saying to your friends “that’s them, that’s weird stupid fucking person that makes me feel so amazing.” This is what it’s like to love someone. Love is also selfless. It’s doing anything for that person. Love is giving that person anything to make them smile. Because that smile is worth anything in the world. Love is also devotion. You will be surrounded by many beautiful people. (im surrounded by two or three each day…) but it’s caring about that person more than those around you. Devotion is the hardest thing to come by today. Maybe that’s why love is so hard to find. You have to realize that love is not hurting that person at any cost. And it’s saying “Yes that person is a ten, but that doesn’t matter. I’ve got a dorky, goofy, amazing, beautiful person who I really care about back home.” Love is also strength. It’s sticking together throughout their shitty friends who try to break you up. The fights, the long nights, the tears. The nights when it seems so much easier to just walk away and never look back… Love is saying I care about you too much to just pack up and leave. I care about you more than whatever life throws at us. Love is giving to that person and teaching them that whatever happens to us. Trust is another key piece of love. It’s knowing that your partner will never pulled the trigger no matter how bad shit gets. It’s letting down your walls and letting this person see you at your weakest points. And knowing that they won’t hurt you. Letting them see your darker side, and yet they find it beautiful. Letting them see every little flaw and knowing that they still see you as beautiful. Love is giving that person the belief that they will not do anything to hurt you. Love is also rooted in Faith. Faith in that person and in your relationship. That is what faith is. Faith is believing that you will make it through the bumps in the road. Faith is throwing away the what it’s and embracing the dreams for the future.

God when this essay turn into a mayday parade song…. These are the basis for love. Love is believing in your partner, trusting them, holding them and never letting them go no matter how loud they snore, or how bad their breath smells. Love is giving all that you have to that one person. This this is what love is. Smiling through the hard times, and holding them when they just cant go on anymore. Finding something beautiful in them every single day…