"Gilmore Girls" is one of the most iconic television shows to ever exist because it revolves round the powerful mother-daughter-duo Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Lorelai and Rory’s relationship isn’t just any typical mother daughter relationship either. During any given episode you can find the two enjoying a cup of coffee at Luke’s diner, stuffing their face with junk food during a movie marathon, or just out and about in Stars Hollow. They tell each other everything and are practically best friends. Whether Rory is stressed about a boy or school, her mother is always there to help her out. Who wouldn’t want to be half of a power duo like that?
Lorelai is not the perfect mom by any means, but her imperfections and ability to learn from her mistakes are how she taught her daughter to be the best person possible. Here’s 15 times Lorelai Gilmore gave the advice a mom could give:
15. Don’t worry about boys who aren’t worth your time.
We’ve all had guy troubles, Lorelai especially, and she reminds Rory time and time again that no guy should ever come before her ambitions. Lorelai teaches Rory that she can be strong and independent without needing a boy.
14. Also, even though falling in love is scary, it’s totally worth it.
Love is messy. But that should never be an excuse to avoid it. Everybody deserves to fall in love just like every mother wants her daughter to find love. Lorelai believes that Rory will fall in love, even if Rory doesn’t.
13. You certainly can’t please everyone.
Lorelai sets the example for Rory when she stops worrying about her mother’s approval. Lorelai knows that she is a good parent to her daughter and has made good choices in her life, but in doing this she has also learned that pleasing everyone just isn’t possible. At the end of the day Lorelai knows that the only person’s validation she needs is her own.
12. You should never say “no” to an adventure.
Lorelai proves that time away from the world is the only medicine you need. She takes Rory on a spontaneous road trip, except Lorelai never planned the destination! They end up having a memorable time at a bed and breakfast and visit Harvard, all which wouldn't have happened if she had said no to this adventure. It goes without saying that sometimes being spontaneous and taking a risk is exactly what your life needs.
11. It’s okay to wallow and ask for help.
You are always entitled to your feelings and Lorelai definitely knows that. Rory has trouble accepting that she feels sad and tries to power through it, without ever dealing with the sadness, though she does learn that it’s not the easiest method of getting over a breakup. Asking for help only makes you stronger because you’re accepting that not everything comes so easily, and there will always be someone there, whether it be your mom or best friend, to help you out.
10. You should always expect the best, but prepare for the worst.
Being sad only makes you human and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. For when Rory’s sad, Lorelai comes to the rescue with the perfect remedy: pajamas, bed, and junk food. You should never go into a situation expecting the worst outcome because then you’re setting yourself up for failure. But be confident and expect great things and if life gets screwed up along the way, you’ll be ready.
9. There are also times when you have to be an adult and figure things out for yourself.
Lorelai says it's always okay to wallow, but she also knows that there are definitely times when you need to figure life out yourself. There’s nothing wrong with needing help, but becoming independent and self sufficient is important for everyone.
8. Consent is key.
As a proud woman, feminist, and mom, Lorelai Gilmore knows how important consent is. She stresses its importance at home with Rory and even at the Dragonfly Inn.
7. Don’t be afraid to let go.
Letting go is so important in everyone’s life and Lorelai tells Dean this after he and Rory break up. Lorelai knows how tricky love can be and uses her kind words and wisdom to help Dean move on and realize that there is much more to life.
6. Your heart is both your best friend and worst enemy.
Along with love comes heartache and all of the mess in between. If anyone can figure out the reason behind why our hearts begin to race or butterflies flutter in our stomachs, Lorelai Gilmore can.
5. Everyone makes mistakes and that’s how you grow.
Lorelai is always there for Rory the moment Rory makes a mistake, because that's what moms are for. She knows that Rory is only a kid, and is still learning. Don’t let one screw up get you down.
4. Don’t be afraid to let someone in.
Lorelai isn’t just a motherly figure for Rory, but sometimes even for Jess. She understands Jess more than Luke because as a teenager, Lorelai was very similar to Jess. She reminds him that being closed off won’t help anyone and if he let someone in, he could be much happier.
3. Don’t burn your bridges.
It’s always sad watching someone special walk out of your life knowing you could have something to make them stay. Lorelai is always careful to keep the relationship with her daughter strong, even during the worst fights.
2. You aren’t always in the right.
Lorelai has made so many mistakes and that only makes her human. She knows that there are always times in her life where her decisions weren’t the wisest, and she wants Rory to learn this too.
1. Most importantly, don't ever doubt yourself.
If Lorelai could teach her daughter one thing, I think it would be to never doubt yourself. Lorelai knows how hard life can be with people constantly judging you, but by giving in, you give lose your power. You can’t be always meet everyone else’s expectations because that’s impossible. Lorelai tells Rory that by accepting who she is as a person, she can achieve anything.