In every relationship that you encounter, there will be barriers of some kind. These barriers can be large or they can be small. Distance is a large barrier that often seems to break relationships apart. Being miles away from your loved one is scary, and sometimes you might question if the relationship will last. I'm telling you from personal experience, that if you both put forth the effort to make it work... it WILL work.
Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold.
It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love.
Its for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough.
-Meghan Daum
I go to college four hours away from my boyfriend. At first, I didn't know if our relationship would remain so light-hearted and genuine if I was away from him all the time. Over time, the distance got easier and has resulted in our relationship and friendship becoming so much stronger.
I'm not saying the distance will be easy, because it is NOT easy. No matter how good your relationship is, there will be times where you get frustrated with the distance and maybe question if you can do it or not. If you let it, distance has the power to make your relationship much stronger than you could ever imagine, and sometimes is a blessing in disguise.
Trust, patience, and communication are a few things that are essential to making a long distance relationship work, and I don't say this lightly. Without these three things, it's hard to have a healthy relationship in general, much less a long distance one. I get it, with busy schedules it can get hard making time to talk on the phone constantly throughout the day.
Honestly, my boyfriend and I barely talk throughout the day. A text message or phone call saying "Have a good day" & "I love you" is what our daily conversations mostly consist of, but at night we FaceTime and fill each other in on everything that is happening in our life. Communication is key, and it is important to make time for each other.
There are so many fun ways to make distance not so bad. FaceTiming or video chatting has been a LIFESAVER for my boyfriend and I. For example, we like to have "movie night" while on FaceTime where we will start the same movie, at the same time, so its like we are having a movie date in person. Also, setting dates to see each other in person can be so exciting.
I'm like a kid in a candy store the whole week leading up to me finally getting to see my boyfriend.
In all, the distance has made my boyfriend and I appreciate our time together so much more. Since you know what it is like to be without one another, it just makes you that more aware that you don't want to do life without one another. I do believe that true love can conquer all obstacles with the right amount of effort from both parties. If you can make it through a long distance relationship with your partner, you can make it through anything together.
XOXO,
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