Contemplating how to live happier isn't a foreign thought to come across our minds. How do we evaluate what is happening in our lives currently and create positive actions from those situations?
Don’t be afraid to do your own thing
Be confident, be strong, be you. Being you is being unique. Everyone has a personal style that’s expressed in numerous ways. Through accessories, hairstyles, clothing trends, and color schemes.
An outfit is never complete without confidence. Anyone will think you’re the bee’s knees if you believe it. Try that new shade of lip color, wear fur, sport a tail if you wish! Own you, it’s a waste of time trying to be ‘original’ or what people call ‘basic’ Be yourself, odds are you’ll begin to find genuine relations.
If you don’t want to hang out with a certain group of people, then don’t. Spent 5 hours with your friend and feel ready to head home, do so. Never ignore your inner conscious, it’s a sign that you want to be doing something else… and that’s okay!
Attitude: Be your number one fan
Giving up is never an option. Don’t be afraid to take chances, because seriously – what is there to lose? Send job applications everywhere, run for a position, raise your hand in class. Self – doubt only perpetuates a defeatist attitude that doesn't get you anywhere but back to negativity.
To have a 'x factor' that sets one apart from the rest is the have the right attitude. Wear the clothes, don't let the clothes wear you. Walk into a room of people without a thought of what others are thinking. Does it matter? No.
Don’t be afraid to cut negative people out
There are people in your life that only contribute to the things going wrong, sometimes this can be a best friend. If individuals around you are appropriating bad decisions, putting you down, or controlling your life – CUT THEM OFF! There isn't a need to surround yourself around others who make you uncomfortable or judge you. That's not friendship.
Hearing the people you consider friends talk smack? Like Mariah Carey says, ‘shake it off’ and keep on keeping on. As long as you know you’re being true to yourself it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. One of the biggest lessons is that people come and go. Some are only around for material things. Some are people that were simply meant to teach you something.
Gossip // sometimes it's better to not say anything
People talk every day. They talk in every which way that can be imagined. Every word that is said out loud can be used against you. Any statement can be turned into something completely different than its purpose. People claim they hate drama but only fuel the fire. How do we approach a gossipy conversation maturely?
If it doesn’t concern you, don’t comment on topics you aren’t informed about. Stick to your own business. Even if you are aware of what’s going on unless the person in question is being confronted than what good is your opinion? Thinking before speaking is valuable advice. Be aware of the words being used. Be aware if you genuinely believe the words you are saying.
Is drama about you right now? What's new, right? That's life, another day another scrub. Always be the bigger person, and LET IT GO! It's not being a wuss, it's being better. Showing that their words can affective only gives a hater power. Last time I checked, haters make you famous.
Remember who you can talk to, who is there for you.
These are the people you want around when you're upset, stressed, heartbroken. If you can sit with each other in the same room and not speak then you know it's love. The people you can vent and cry to are also the people you can aggressively eat in front of. Astounding how listening can be the most significant human acts to give another people. Appreciate people who are there for you through these times. The friends who are positive and supportive are the friends you want to keep. Going through something hard in is nearly impossible to get through without a shoulder to cry on.
These are ideas that have to be put in practice and doesn't help overnight. The more aware one is with their emotions, thoughts, and personal will - the healthier decisions one will make. Creating a positive life begins by thinking such.