Living life with divorced parents is a difficult thing to go through. If your parents get along after the divorce than you are extremely lucky. If not then you know what I’m talking about. Fortunately for me, I’ve been through everything you possibly could with divorced parents.

A reminder for every child out there is that you are not alone, and it is not your fault.

Divorce is something that changes your whole entire life. Everything that used to be normal isn’t normal anymore. You have to adapt to a whole new way of living. I’ve gone through the evil step mom, picking which side I wanted to be on and so on. Being a child of divorced parents does not get any easier, whether they get along or not. There is the constant struggle of feeling torn apart, not knowing who’s side you want to be on. You hear tons of different stories as to why this happened or why that happened. It actually does get harder after you turn eighteen because you don’t need to listen to the set days you had when you were younger. The schedule that was made for you has suddenly vanished and now you’re on your own. Picking holidays is the hardest thing to do. You constantly think will my mom or dad get mad at me if I decide to be with one or the other on this holiday. The hardest part about this whole situation is vacations. Going on vacation is the most difficult thing to cope with for me at least because I can only go with one parent. I have not gotten to enjoy a family vacation with both my parents since I was around four years old. Now most kids take this stuff for granted, but believe it or not, you should cherish the time you have with both parents because being without one is the hardest thing on this planet.

Now some people might have it easy, and honestly, now it is a lot easier for me than it was the last ten years.

My parents never got along, and I mean NEVER. They always used to butt heads and have arguments over everything. There is only one person to blame but if you know me you most definitely know. Fortunately for me within the last four or five years, my parents have been the best they ever have. They talk all the time and they are always on the same page. If all divorces were like that then this country would probably be a lot better and there wouldn’t be those stereotypes such as “daddy issues.” I know when I was younger I would always watch the Parent Trap and there was only one reason for that. There was that fairy-tale ending where the parents got back together and their life was back, I used to always dream that would happen. But the reality is, once a divorce happens it remains the same. In the long run, it was better for my parents to divorce and usually behind every divorce there is a bigger reason as to why it had to happen.

Divorce is a blessing and a curse. It teaches a child how to be independent since you are being raised by an independent parent. It helps you learn a lot about yourself and you can get through things that you may have never thought you could get through. Some are luckier than others when it comes to this situation but it’s a life changing event to happen and it only makes you stronger.