So many people today live with anxiety and depression that it is so hard to even live. Though there are still so many people out there that will tell you that depression is all in your head or that anxiety does not even exist. That they are both just things that you say you have to get attention. There are even people out there that tell you to suck it up and deal with it. Tell you to just suck it down or get over it when it isn't that easy to just get rid of depression and anxiety. Most people would love to be happy, to talk on the phone, or even do normal things in life without feeling so anxious or have anxiety in the back of their mind saying what they should and shouldn't do. It is hard.
Tough depression is different for everybody, believe it or not, people have it. There are days that are harder for some people to get out of bed in the morning because they really do not feel like living that day. It sucks. Their depression is sinking down in them that tells not to bother being happy or even to feel a fulling happy life. Depression is having a true happy moment and then the next moment getting extremely upset and wanting to cry at the same time because of depression.
Even though someone smiles, looks happy, and is outgoing, don't just assume that they don't have depression. Living with depression is easier for some than others. Depression can eat away at someone in the inside, but they tell themselves that they will be okay. They know that no matter what, they will make it through and don't want people to give them any sympathy. Though for others it is a lot harder to have a smile on their face, get out of bed, or even make connections with people.
Even with anxiety, it is not easy to have or to live with. People have a consistent nagging in the back of their head. You could be spending time with your friends, but in the back of their mind, all you can think is your friends don't want to spend time with you. They don't care. They just feel sorry for it.
Anxiety is always asking questions for reassurance, because you tell yourself other wise. That someone doesn't actually love you. Someone doesn't actually want to talk to you. It is asking the same question over and over again because you can not let go that your mind is telling you other wise.
It is days where you can't call someone on the phone because you tell yourself that you are going to sound stupid. It is fearing that the person on the other line might think you don't know what your talking about. It isn't always easy. Even talking to people and making friends. You don't want someone you don't know think that you're not going to be a good enough friend or that you do not fit the type of friends that they want.
Living with anxiety and depression together can be very difficult. There is the constant telling yourself that you want to be proactive, but can't because you cant figure out a reason to get out of bed. Telling yourself that no one would care if you got out of bed. Thinking that if you got out of bed, no one is going to care. There are even days where you don't want to message someone first because you don't want to bug them and you think your annoying. So you wait for them to message you first and when they don't, you start to tell yourself that they don't even want to talk to you or that you did something wrong to offend them. But wanting to talk to them because your having a really bad moment and they can help you though it.
If you know someone with anxiety or depression, or someone that has both, be their friend. Try not to get mad when they ask the same questions over and over again. They just want to know that you still care and that you are still going to be their friend. If they ask you to order for them at a restaurant or make a phone call for them or help them make a friend, help them. If they seem sad or just having a bad day because of their depression, make things easier for them. Find things that make them happy. Let them watch their favorite movies or take them out, because sometimes it is the little things to help them not so warped in their depression. Be a good friend and make it easier for them. It will make them feel better knowing that you care.
