Jealousy does not look pretty in the eyes of anyone. Whether you are jealous of the girl your ex-boyfriend is with now, or jealous of the skinny girl working out next to you at the gym, it is not pretty. Jealousy sits in the back of your head, pulling at all your ambitions, goals and desires. He sits there, and with a small menacing voice, he reminds you how you are not good enough and how you will never be as good as she is.
This monster is one of the reasons why people give up. He is one of the reasons why we fall into pits of depression. He is one of the reasons why some of us, are being held back from reaching our full potential. He brings out the worst in us. He brings out the nasty, hateful, s**t talking side of us. You know, they say girls only talk badly about others because they are jealous. Is that true? Do we spit nasty words about girls – who we should be uplifting and encouraging – because we wish we had what they had? Their body, their hair, their shoes, their intelligence.
Is that not kind of laughable? Our minds have tricked us into thinking that because we do not look like that girl on Tumblr or that girl on Pinterest or that girl at the party flirting with the hot guy, that automatically there is something wrong with us. All because of that green-eyed monster in the back of our heads tugging at our ambitions, our goals, and our desires.
What if I told you, you are still in control? What if I told you that you can hear that jealous monster in the back of your head and choose to shut him out. You can hear how nice it sounds to ruin the girl who looks better than you, and say no. Be happy for her, feel excited for her, and then go after your ambitions, your goals, and your desires.
Make jealousy a temporary feeling not a personality trait. You feel jealous right now, but you are not a jealous person. If you let it define you, it may be impossible to let it go. If you feel jealous at times, you have the ability to recognize that you also feel happy sometimes. Once you realize that sometimes you feel happy and accomplished and proud, those times when you feel jealous don't matter as much.
Anger, jealousy, and resentment are feelings that don't affect anyone but you. It does not stop the path of the girl your jealous of, it only stops you from being happy. Do not feed the monster, because he is only in the back of your mind tugging on your ambitions, your goals, and your desires. Don't let him fool you, make him fuel you. Take the jealousy, and make yourself a better you.
