Why doesn't she just leave me alone? She's always telling me what to do, why don't I ever get a say? She never cares about what I want, its always her way or the highway. Times are so different now, technology is so different now, so her opinion is completely outdated. What would she know anyways? She just doesn't understand.
Any of these thoughts ring a bell? These thoughts were pretty present during the rollercoaster ride that was my early teenage years. You know, those times where you would get so embarrassed in a store, because your mom did something and you felt all awkward about it. Or all those times she'd cheer you on at all your games, as you stand in the batter's box in utter humiliation. Specific, I know, but there were always those times you thought that "embarrassment" would wreck your world. We were all irrational, to a varying degree, at that age.
Now, as we grow older, hopefully maturing a little bit on the way, some of us may be away at college, from our parents, and we are slowly learning how we may have not known what we had until it was gone, or at least not always present.
One thing, that I will never thank my mom enough for, is always having my back, and always supporting me 110 percent. She had my back all throughout school, where I would sometimes not even know that she was helping carry some of my burdens as well. And I can honestly say, that I know for a fact, that she will always have my back and look out for the best for me. Always.
Through much devoted research and fact checking, I can truthfully say that she is batting a thousand in having my back and picking me up when I was down, and I hope that each and every one of you have a person in your life like that. Whether it's a parent, partner, relative, friend, somebody that cares and loves you unconditionally.
Anyways, during times of stress, depression, or a crossroad, I know that I can go to my mom and I'll get my best options for fixing the problem at hand. She gives out the best advice, and what's cool about it is that it's tailored just for you! It's not some TED Talk or preacher giving you just any advice, it's your mom! The person who changed your diapers, who took you to the hospital when you broke your wrist in the fifth grade, who kissed you goodbye on your first day of high school, who took your pictures at the prom, who helped set up your first college dorm, and the person who screams your name as you walk out of the airport. I'd say that she knows you quite a bit! She's on your team!
Here's a thought, for anyone who may have been caught not listening to their mom on occasion. If at first you don't succeed, try doing it the way Mom told you to in the beginning. Maybe that'll work.
Sometimes we don't want to listen to our moms, but when it comes to the big, adult stuff, we should give them a listen more often. At first, what they say may not make sense, it may even seem crazy at times, but, looking back on my experience, I knew that her final say was always right. Sometimes, you just ignore and shrug off what she says, and you just do your own thing—what you think is right. And typically, as you follow through doing your own thing, you'll start to feel really good about yourself. "I knew she'd never understand, I'm totally right," you'll think to yourself. And maybe the decision you made, whatever it may be, feels good, in your eyes, but, as reality sets in, you may find yourself feeling at a loss, trapped, or confused, like the outcome was not what you envisioned it to be. Why? Well, because you weren't looking long-term, or maybe you weren't being real and rational with the situation in the first place, or [insert reason here]. But, your mom was. She never utters the words, "I told you so." She never resents you for making that mistake, but rather welcomes you back with open arms, picks you up, dusts you off, and helps get back on the right track. So if you're ever in a jam, or the sky seems to be falling before you, give your mom call, she may know you better than you think you know yourself.
Warning: One trap not to fall into is making your mom's word law. You should be able to say what is on your mind to your mom, and she definitely takes your feelings into account. You should "fight" her word and stand your ground. Do not roll over, play dead, and succumb to it. My guess is that your mom probably wants to hear what you think, I don't know, you're kinda her flesh and blood and all. But be aware that your mom loves you, and she'd never do anything to hurt you, so listen to her.You are allowed to disagree, and, when its all said and done, there will be an understanding.
I don't know if I'll ever understand how they do it, its some type of crazy magic or crystal ball or something, but they just know. They have this superior amount of experience combined with the motherly love that they for their children, it's truly unparalleled. They have lived through almost the same phases of life you have.They are a treasure trove of knowledge, advice, and love.
Listen to your mom, a person whose been your No. 1 since Day 1 (literally). She always has your best interest at hand. Disagreements and arguments are healthy (that means you're allowed to have a say!), but just know, at the end of the day, your mom always has your back and will always love you.