It was a classic love story. Girl meets boy. Girl falls for boy. Girl gets heart broken by boy. The only difference between the movie version and real life is that this time, the boy didn’t come running back. He didn’t spill apologies or confess his feelings. There wasn’t this epic final scene with a happy ending because in all honesty, that’s not life. Situations get messy and weird and all tangled up like a spider’s web. There’s a constant back and forth between following your head and following your heart which can cause your “web” known as your life to become a massive confusing whirlwind of emotions. One second turns into moments of laughter and happiness. It can also take only a second to make those moments not so blissful.
Being rejected isn’t the hardest part of having your heart broken. Partners come and go in life. Hook-ups work out or go horribly wrong. Everyone needs to learn how to deal with rejection because it’s an essential part of growing up, so no it’s not the worst thing. What’s worse is having someone be a complete dick about it. A little tip from the voice of the heartbroken, when letting a girl down, try not to be an asshole when doing it. This implies not telling people things that aren’t true about the situation. Don’t ignore her when she just wants to clear the air. Don’t make her feel like she wasn’t enough to keep you around when in reality you just fucked up. You made a mistake which is normal for humans. Maybe you thought you were ready for something that you weren’t, and that’s perfectly fine. Whatever the situation may be, just don’t make her feel like it was her fault if it wasn’t. Don’t make her feel as if you didn’t care about what you did to her.
Don’t regret decisions that made you happy even if it was in the past. They may be nothing but bad memories now, but those decisions once brought you a load of happiness even if it was for just a few moments. Whether things worked out or not is irrelevant because at one point or another, that decision you made was one that you thought was right. Even if that decision now seems like the worst one you could have made, don’t regret it. As cheesy as it sounds, every action comes with a reaction. I know I have learned and grown from every experience I have gone through. If I were to regret any experience, even the bad ones, it would just make me feel worse as a person. There is no changing the past, so why waste time dwelling in regret? A
s soon as you take away someone’s pride in their decisions is when you should be ashamed. I fell for a boy. It didn’t work out, and that’s okay. I don't regret anything we had done together. That is until he made me regret it. Sometimes all a girl wants is to hear is that even if you two are not going to work, she wasn’t a mistake. She wasn’t a regret. She wasn’t just some girl. She matters. A girl just wants to know that for those moments together, she did mean something. For whatever amount of time you spent together doing whatever made you two happy, you cared. No one likes to feel used or worthless. Let her know that even if you two aren’t going to be together, you still value her as a person.
It was a classic love story. Girl meets boy. Girl falls for boy. Girl gets heart broken by boy. However, the girl is okay now. She doesn’t let the insecurities he made her feel or the bullshit he once made her believe get in her way. Strength and power guide her through her days. Happiness is slowly starting to flow out of her as easily as the regret once did. He unknowingly taught her that sometimes things turn to shit, but that doesn’t mean to give up on the possibility of good things happening. One day she’ll get the guy worth the happy ending to her love story. Today is just not that day and this one guy is just not that guy.
