When you have a big heart, you tend to help too much, trust too much, give too much, and love too much. And when those things are given to the people who don't appreciate it, you end up hurting too much. If you're anything like me, and countless other women out there, you're probably a "too much" woman. Let me explain to you what I mean by that.
If you're a too much woman, you're probably a countless number of things--too loud, too emotional, too intelligent, too fat, too needy, too real. You want respect, true love, and to be completely understood. You also, nine times out of ten, have a very big heart, which causes you to crave affection like nobody's business.
"Having a big heart is a great thing, but it can also be your greatest weakness that some will abuse."
My big heart is my greatest gift, but also my greatest flaw. It causes me happiness when given to the right people, yet pain and sorrow when given to the wrong ones. I've cried rivers hundreds of times and vowed that I'll never give it away again, but that never rings true. Even wounded, I still have an insatiable need to feel loved and give love.
To quote Audrey Hepburn, "I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it." I can think of about ten people off the top of my head who have claimed that I "can't live without a man" or that I "don't know how to be alone", and that's hardly the case. The truth is, I do know how to be alone, I just prefer not to be. Now that doesn't mean I want meaningless relationships with a bunch of people; I want deep connections with every person I choose to have in my life. That in itself categorizes me as a "too much" woman. I want too much, desire too much, expect too much. Yet despite these things, I still prevail, just as you, and other "too much" women out there should too. Use your "too much-ness" as your tool, your strength in this world. Go ahead. Love too much. Give too much. One day, your "too much" will be enough.
