There is always that one person who makes you feel something new, exciting, and different. You kind of relate to that person in a way you haven’t with anyone else before. After spending enough time with them you really start to unintentionally fall for their little quirks. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that this person who you think is perfect for you might not feel the same way. We all have that ex-boyfriend who never gave us an explanation for the break-up, but the fact of the matter is that he probably was just over it. We try to build reasons up in our head why we should be with someone, or we play things out in our head differently than they actually happened. Why do we do this? Why do we feel like we have to come up with excuses for people not liking us back? Why is there such a need for this one sided acceptance?

The truth is we can’t let go of the one who doesn’t want us back because of this fear of rejection and being hurt. We choose to stay with these people who play mind games on us and can’t make up their mind about how they feel just to avoid the acceptance that they simply just don’t like us. I think it is so important to realize early on that in life you’re going to meet so many people and not all of them are going to like you.

Regardless of how long you’ve known someone sometimes those memories are just too painful to hold onto. Every time you see or talk to them it reminds you of all those feelings you once had that can’t just dissipate. You have to let go of what you once had because you can’t recreate it no matter how hard you try. Instead of looking back at the ending you have to just appreciate the time you had together. You will drive yourself insane questioning where things stand and if they make you feel like they don’t need you then that will only bring you down. If they don’t speak up and show their blunt feelings for you, it will just be damaging to stay with them.

You deserve someone who can tell you exactly how they feel. Someone who is honest with you and isn’t afraid to be themselves around you. Someone who can be your best friend before anything else, and will support you through everything you are going through. You want people in your life who make you the best version of yourself. If they don’t make you feel good about yourself, don’t stay with them just to avoid this rejection.

We tend to give “rejection” such a negative connotation, but it honestly can be a positive thing. I am a strong believer that when one door closes, it opens another for opportunity. If it doesn’t work out with someone whether it is a friendship or relationship, there is always an opportunity to start fresh with someone new. Don’t let the past or fear of getting hurt hold you back from being with a completely different person. I mean it is a new year, and if you look back on what you were doing on this day one year ago I can 100% guarantee you have new friends, or have experienced things that changed you as a person completely. So accept change, and accept that people will come and go, but dedicate yourself to those who stayed and don’t waste time on those who could care less.