Dear little sister,

Never would I ever thought that I would actually be writing you a letter since our bedrooms are only a hall apart. How’s everything going? I’m not really sure how you are since we really don’t talk but I’m always worrying about you. You know I think about you daily. You’re my only sister and my only Tuffi. Well technically, you are the only Tuffi, and you can thank me for that one since I blessed you with that name. I can’t believe we're both growing up now and we both drive black Jeeps.

We never really had anything in common when we grew up, minus the fact we both loved our dogs and loved to swim. Remember that time that we were playing lifeguard and Jake actually thought I was drowning? Gosh, all the pain I went through trying to escape the pool. I can only imagine all the pain you’ve gone through. Highschool sucks, and I wish I could’ve been a bigger part of your life now that it is nearing an end.

But hey! College is going to be great. You're going to meet much better people and connect with multiple groups of individuals. I know you’re going to prosper. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, you will make your way into adulthood swimmingly. You’ve always had a strong head (and legs since soccer) and I’ve admired you for that. You’re goal oriented and that's a quality not many people have. I’m glad to have had someone like you to grow up with and I’m extremely happy to call you my sister. Therefore, I want to leave you with a few pointers as you progress. I know we are only 18 months apart but you and I have seen many different things. Hopefully me sharing some of these things will help you, or maybe even get you out of having to go through them.

First of all, never hold back what is on your mind. Always, always, always speak what comes to mind as it pops into your head. Holding back your words can get you hurt or even put you in a situation you can’t get out of. You know, I’ve been through some sticky shit (which we shall not discuss), so take it from me and always say what you need.

Secondly, eat whatever you want and drink whatever you want. Stop counting calories, worrying about being “chubby” and getting that bikini body. There is no such thing as an ideal bikini body. Just put on that cute bikini and rock it. No one cares about the outside, it’s all about the inside. If anyone judges your looks, cut them off immediately. No need for the negativity and toxic thoughts.

Lastly.. Live. Tuffi, all I want is for you to carry on. Breathe in and out and push through all of the bad times. There's always hope after the storm. Forget anyone who's been mean to you, they’re irrelevant, (except me because I’m your sister and I love you). Enjoy each day like it’s your last. Travel to parks and explore; I’ve been doing it for years. I find that when you journey to new locations it can help enhance your creativity and mental state. Even if you hate the bugs outside, try going outside and running through a field. I’m sure it will help.

So Tuffi, continue being you. You’re doing a great job with yourself and every day seems to get better for you. Keep your friends close, since the new group of people you are with seem to really love you. Just never kick me away. I know you’ve tried to in the past but you’re some of the only remnants of myself I have left. Even though we clash, I see similarities and I just want to leave you with one final thought: