To the girl who is being played and doesn’t even know it,

I know how special you must feel to have found such a great guy who is attractive and oh-so-interesting. Yeah, I know, he’s had a pretty interesting life. He probably tells you about all the sports he played growing up, about his siblings, and what it’s like living in his home state. But honey, he tells all his girls that. Sure he spends the most time with you, but when he’s not with you, he’s most likely with another girl. Honestly, I think it’s pretty low that he does that, but he is living the “college life” that glamorizes being a player. I wish you weren’t so blind by his perfect skin, pretty eyes, and flowing hair so that you could see that you aren’t the only one. That’s why I am writing this letter.

You’re pretty and you’re smart, so don’t feel like you’re stupid when you finally wake up and realize that you aren’t his only candidate for being the perfect “wife material” girlfriend. I guess you could say that he’s keeping his options open. Or he’s only keeping you around because you have a cute pet and you cook and clean for him. Or he was low enough to ask you if it's okay with you that you have an open relationship. In my opinion, that is just as bad. I see the way he only goes over to your place if you are cooking dinner or he only invites you over when his place needs some tidying up. I wish you would notice that too, because that’s one of the signs that he is taking advantage of you. But it’s all worth it to feel special for a couple nights and to post cute pictures with him… right? Or to be his main chick and know that you're a little more important than his other girls? Wrong. It’s the little things that show that he’s really not into you. If you have to fight for his attention, then it’s not worth it.

I wish you could see it from my point of view. Being his friend, I see the girls come and go. I see him talking to girls on Tinder. I see him interacting with girls that aren’t you. I see how he pays more attention to his phone than he does to you when you’re over. I see everything that goes on. He knows how into him you are and he takes advantage of that. He knows all your weaknesses, one being that you love to feel needed by him, so he uses them when he needs them and it makes you feel loved more and more by him. He’s a player and you’re his favorite game.

So please try to see it from my point of view. Try not to be so blind by his looks, flirty attitude, smooth words, and his “affection.” You deserve so much better. You deserve a guy who only sees you, only thinks of you, and only wants you. You deserve someone who will delete his Tinder app for you, someone who will post pictures of you, and someone who will tell you he loves you and mean it. You deserve someone who will plan dates with you and invite you over. You shouldn’t have to ask him if you can come over or tell him that you’re making dinner to get him to come over. Stop taking your pet to his apartment. Stop giving him reasons to like you that have nothing to do with you. Make him like you for you. Don’t let him make a fool out of you because like I said, you are smart and pretty and you can get any guy you want.

Sincerely,

The friend of the guy that you don’t see as a player