Hey there,

I know that ambitious girls can be scary. They have goals and dreams, and I’m sure you’ve noticed how hard she is trying to achieve them. Just because a girl pays more attention to school or work more than you doesn’t mean she is trying to avoid you or doesn’t like you. In fact, she likes you a lot, but has some goals she’s trying to achieve first. She never took into account that she would be dating a guy while doing this.

However, it doesn’t mean she thinks of you any less. She’ll spend all night studying instead of hanging out with you. She’ll go to work after a full week of tests and homework so she has no free time on the weekends. But, she’s not doing this intentionally. She’s only trying to make a future for herself, and hopes to include you in it. Trust me, there is nothing more she would like than to relax and spend time with you rather than studying for that one test that could make or break her grade. She’d rather be hiking and going on adventures with you than working on that paper that’s due on midnight on a Saturday night.

If she doesn’t reply to your text instantly, she’s not ignoring you. She’s just busy, and will get back to you as soon as possible. She loves talking to you; it’s like taking a vacation away from all the work. However, she’s got to get some of it done. Also, if she says she’s not busy and can hang out, she probably is busy. She’s putting all of the schoolwork off to spend some time with you. When you’re busy, too, it can be frustrating when she makes time for you, but you no time for her. So put yourself in her shoes, and she’ll always empathize. Nobody ever said it was easy.

You’ve probably recognized that this girl is stubborn and not easily convinced. There is no way to say, “Hey, come over,” when she’s studying or doing homework. She can’t because she’s trying to finish her work so she can hang out with you without being stressed out. Because if she doesn’t finish it, she’ll most likely be thinking about everything she has left to do, and not be much fun to hang out with. When she can finally take a break, she still has stuff to do, but it’s not completely pressing at the moment. Also, she has high expectations, as you can tell from her goals and dreams. So if she’s dating you, you fulfill those expectations, and should feel honored. It’s a big deal, so don’t hate on her too much for not being able to do a movie night every night. However, when she’s free, she’s all about spontaneity and adventures with you, just give her time.

An ambitious girl wants to be recognized for her accomplishments. She probably is a part of multiple school organizations, takes on a heavy course load so she can get out of those pre-requisites, and works her butt off to get all of it done so she can have some free time. If you tell her how proud you are of her, you probably have no idea how much that means to her. It means the world to her. Plus, I know it’s frustrating, but please don’t complain about how you never get to see her. She has a future in mind, and she wants to make it perfect. I bet you she has Pinterest boards with plans for every event in life. She’s dreaming of those days, and maybe she’ll get to experience those with you if you’ll stick around for her to get to that perfect future.

Now, ambition may scare you off, but you won’t ever find a girl who cares more. She will always be there for you, no matter what. Society tends to tear down women with ambitions, so don’t take her for granted. She tries really hard to do it all, and she’s just learning how to handle it all at this age. She’ll learn eventually, so have patience, my friend.

Sincerely,

A Girl with Ambition