Dear manipulator,
Meeting you I thought I was done, I thought I was done looking for someone to love me as much as you seemed to have loved me. I had this vision of me walking down the aisle to be meeting you at the end and starting our lives together happily ever after. You were someone I thought I could spend the rest of my life with. We started talking and I thought you were everything and a bag of chips, we started dating not too long after, which was two weeks prior to meeting, and I had the feeling of what I thought was love by the end of month number one. But going back to meeting you, I was happy and thought this was going to last, but little did I know you were nothing that resembled the person I loved so much, or what I thought was love.
You started our relationship letting me think you were to always a sweet talker, always were to want to put me first, and thought I was all that and a bag of chips, I thought we were on the same page, but soon after the relationship continues to progress. I was misled and manipulated.
Being manipulated in a relationship is a form of abuse and in no way do I want another individual to experience the feelings I have experienced in a relationship like the one with you. You stopped me from doing so many things my freshman year of college. I was by your side when the going got tough, but when I needed you, you were nowhere to be found that is not how a relationship is supposed to be. You were not complicated you were manipulative. I quickly learned with you that my feelings had to be pushed to the side because you needed me, and I needed you but I am positive that to you it did not matter. There were numerous occasions where I would continuously make sacrifices for you which led into missing out on my first year of college, but not the point, the point is you never made any sacrifices for me. I gave you my all and what did I get from you... nothing in return. I understand there are some situations that happened in your life that made being with anyone difficult but I should not have been your doormat for you to stomp on. I rarely got a thank you, or any form of appreciation.
Why did I stay? That is the real question that I still do not fully know the answer too. But the part of that question i do know is I did not love you, I only cared for you enough to make sure you were okay. That is no longer my responsibility and I feel a million times happier without being manipulated. Being manipulative is not going to get you anywhere in your dating life. To me you were a lesson that taught me what a women should truly look for in a man and that is someone who will treat them like a queen. Someone that will continuously put ladies first and prove their love for you. You express to me your life was complicated but that was nothing more than a lie, you continuously came up with excuses as to why you were depressed and you made that my problem. Your excuses and you behavior was out of control and scared me more than it had before. I did not want to leave sooner because I feared for what you would do with your life, but now that we are apart I can see how foggy you made my thoughts and feeling. I wish you the best on your journey in life but I suggest you do not treat anyone the way you treated me. I treat strangers better than the way you treated me.
Sincerely, the girl you claimed you loved.
When little girls are little they think of all they want in a “boy” they are going to marry one day, manipulative is not a characteristic that first comes to mind. Ladies, do not let a man control your life, learn to have a balance, that is what I am trying to learn with myself. Take time to do you, have your friends and make sure your friends like your bae. Don’t let someone who is manipulative tell you anything about yourself, because what they say it not true, you are all beautiful and there is someone who loves you the way you are.
